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• Commented on Counselling for mismatched desire
  Thanks Ian. I'm not in the US, but happily things have now improved, so not feeling the need to find a new counsellor. It's hard to explain what changed - we somehow both found part of our solutions. I read...
• Commented on Counselling for mismatched desire
  Ok, so I've been talking all about my experience (which i find therapuetic!) but now I actually do have a question. Has anyone been to a counsellor who specifically and explicitly addresses sex? Ours uses the term "sexual intimacy", and...
• Commented on Husband doesn't want SEX!!!!
  Hi SMJ. Just wanted to say that I'm in a similar scenario with my partner (though we don't have kids), and I really found 'Mating in Captivity' useful. It provides a different insight to most of what you hear about...
• Commented on Counselling for mismatched desire
  Update 3: after the third session. Counselling went well, we are more open about what we're saying to the psychologist. Homework was to spend one week on romance (massages etc), then one on "sexual intimacy" without orgasm or penetration, then...
• Commented on Counselling for mismatched desire
  Update two: We're two counselling sessions down. Mixed results so far. Still on a 'no sex' prescription, but after the next session then everything apart from penetrative sex and orgasms will be allowed. The counsellor talked to us separately last...
• Commented on Counselling for mismatched desire
  Update one: something interesting happened. A few mornings after our sex ban was put in place, my man wanted sex! Spontaneous erection, holding me against him, even telling me that he was horny. A MIRACLE! I was so stoked that...
• Posted Counselling for mismatched desire to The Good in Bed Forums
  My man and I went to counselling for the first time yesterday. Since it is the #1 recommendation on this site, I thought I'd tell you how it went, and also ask one question: Has anyone ever had a significant...