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I have tried some of the things you mentioned and receive no response. Talking is impossible, no matter how gently I approach it. When I try to hug from behind in an instance like you mention I am literally pushed...
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She is supportive and takes amazing care of our family. But from an affection standpoint, there is none at all from her....
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My wife and I have been married 12 years now. Over those 12 years we have had sex 20-25 times. My wife says all the time, 'it's not you, I just simply do not want or like sex'. It is...

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crazyd commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
Okay she is a good mom. I assume then she never praises you, says she is proud of you, respects you, or does things for you out of love. Lets assume then that it is not just the sex - but she is cold and gives nothing to YOU as a man and her husband. Here are some ideas - in no particular order - or judgement - or moral high ground. 1) Exercise - including heavy weight lifting. It will help your feelings self worth. 2) See a lawyer. Talk not only about divorcing now - but later too....
stillcraveit commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
I've had the same issue. I finally told my wife I'm not living without sex in my like. It's her decision where we go from there. She came around and we are doing well. Maybe it works for you and maybe not. But you have to have conviction to that statement. I was prepared to move on it because I had given her every chance to have a life with me....
WD commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
I don't see any advice here, from any of the MD's or other medical professionals. What is her medical history? Is she on any medications, including birth control? Hormone levels checked? Thyroid? Is she stressed by work, family, or have history of depression (some people can mask those symptoms very efficiently). Be certain of one thing: I am NOT saying anything is wrong with her. But her libido is being affected either by emotional or physical aspects that you and probably she, as well, do not fully understand. You two are ripe for some couples counseling by an AASECT sexologist/therapist....
Ian Kerner commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
Sorry for the response in seeing this thread -- I agree with much of the advice in this dialogue. I really think you need to see a professional -- if your wife refuses to go, then you must go yourself. You mentioned the expense of a divorce, and investing in some therapy sessions will cost far far less. But it sounds like the situation cannot continue as is, and you need help. Your wife needs help too, especially in opening up and communicating around her lack of interest, but you need strategic therapy in terms of concrete next steps. Some...
Warren commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
I was in a very similar position and just recently my wife and I started communicating for the first time after 10 years (about sex). We have 3 young kids, we both work, mortgage, 2 cars... the whole 9 yards. Everything may look great on the shell but without a solid core (love and desire), you're headed towards depression, infidelity, and eventual separation. The worst part of it is, your children will suffer. Better to live a life feeling like a man, being desired and showing your "best" to your kids as a single man than being a broken, undesired,...