Amy Levine

  • Commented on Fantasies when with fiance
    I agree with Dr. Castellanos. You can fantasize the whole time you're alone or with a partner, or just at certain moments. Fantasy is not something you stop doing when you're married. It's a pleasurable tool you can use to...
  • Commented on Threesomes
    You can also just roleplay the fantasy if it feels safe to both of you. To do this, you could blindfold him and use different props, voices and touch to make it seem that another woman has been added to...
  • Commented on Stoking the Flames
    Great suggestions. Using Violet Blue's book to suss out the raunchy from the erotic, you can then get videos on demand at http://www.passionatevod.com/index.php?&CLICK=94405,1,suba,http%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2F One director to check out: Candida Royalle...
  • Commented on Male Orgasm Without Ejaculation
    It could be that you're experiencing retrograde ejaculation where semen flows backwards to the bladder instead of going up through the urethra and outside the body. One reason this can happen is from various prescription drugs. It's problematic if you...
  • Commented on lasting longer in bed
    First, it's important to suss out the cause--are you on any meds, are there psychological issues at play, etc. If it seems like it's more related to habit, rather than a serious issue, it's possible to last longer. And, the...
  • Commented on Fantasies
    For some people fantasies easily flow in their mind. For others they don't happen naturally. Sometimes people are even afraid to open their mind to the possibilities that fantasies can be about anything at all. Reading erotica alone or together...
  • Commented on Bi Sexual Feelings
    I totally agree with Kristen and Ian. Additionally, a lot of men are on the down low and may choose not to label themselves as hetero-, bi- or homosexual. There are men that may have known earlier in their life...
  • Commented on pregnancy ???
    Yes, it's possible to become pregnant anytime sperm are able to enter the vagina (assuming both the woman's ovum and male's sperm are viable). In fact, if you're having unprotected sex and sperm are still in his urethra (like after...
  • Commented on Burning sensation
    While her gynecologist says she is fine, and that there's no problem with your semen, it could be the combination that can cause the burning sensation. I wonder if the doc checked her right after you've had sex to notice...
  • Commented on Fear
    It's great that you're understanding, patient and taking things slow. There are some women who are fearful of pain based on past experiences in which they hold on to the memory. Others, have fear due to hearing that penetration is...
  • Commented on No Passion or Desire
    Thanks for sharing what you're going through. Your situation doesn't have to be either/or. Generally, when couples are together a long while they get stuck in the same pattern of interacting. And, for many talking with a third party can...
  • Commented on Midlife Peak?
    Maybe he's not up to sex several nights a week, but you come up with a ton of ideas that work--you can cuddle, he can hold you while you masturbate next to him, you can make out without it leading...
  • Commented on Midlife Peak?
    It's awesome that you're feeling a sexual peak! Often it's said that women reach their sexual peak in their 30's. I personally think the reason why this age was given and why others experience it earlier or later on is...
  • Commented on 27 and no libido
    It seems you've tried to change the medical aspect by going off Depo and changing your dosage of Cymbalta. This is a great first step. Trying this for a while can help (talk with your doc about the time period...
  • Commented on 27 and no libido
    Know that you're not alone. Many women in the 20's, 30's and 40's experience low or no libido. And, there are many culprits: medications, lifestyle (school, hectic lives, etc.), psychological factors, etc....
  • Commented on What is the Vagina Supposed to Feel Like?
    It's understandable that you're nervous about dating, but if you allow yourself to be open to new experiences, it can be a lot of fun. To answer the question most on your mind, the feel of the vagina is generally...
  • Commented on Patting the Vagina
    As firsttimer mentioned, it feels good to many women. And, it may be patting that does the trick, or another type of touch, like tickling using the fingertips, massaging or rubbing....
  • Commented on Shy About Masturbation and Toys
    It may simply be that she's exhausted and wants to please you and get to work, take care of the next item on the to-do list (this sounds terrible in this context, but it's true for a lot of women),...
  • Commented on What To Do?
    Two years is a long time--especially, when many couples are most sexual earlier on in their relationship, as compared to when they've been together for a long time. If he has a condition that can be managed or treated with...
  • Commented on Are you comfortable talking about sex?
    Sounds like a plan...but, it seems she still hasn't opened up no matter how much you've tried. For some women, it takes more than their partner's love and support to get them to feel more sexually empowered (of which communication...
  • Commented on Are you comfortable talking about sex?
    While more and more people are at ease talking about sex, I still find it's tricky for a lot of people. Often, the comfort level is set during childhood, and is based on how sexuality was or was not discussed...
  • Commented on What makes you feel sexual?
    I agree that self esteem and confidence are related to desire for many people--and this is reflected in my own life as well as the lives of many of my clients. Those that feel good about what's going on in...
  • Commented on How Do I Tease My New Boyfriend?
    I also agree that it's a good idea to ask your guy what teasing means to him. If he's up for a little experimentation, it can be fun to see how he responds to certain types of touch. For some...
  • Commented on Sex: how much does it really matter?
    For example, if the person with the lower libido says they want to touch and cuddle, but nothing more when this happens unless they initiate--it can allow them to safely set boundaries while still sharing with their partner. Or, the...
  • Commented on Sex: how much does it really matter?
    For some couples mismatched libidos can be a deal breaker. However, for others it seems that both partners can work towards a happy medium. As many of us have addressed, the lost connection is what can be most devastating. For...
  • Commented on Masturbation
    Masturbation is generally only a problem when a person lets it interfere with with how they function in their daily life--going to work, interacting with other people, etc. It can also be problematic if it's preventing you from being intimate...
  • Commented on Our Cheating Hearts
    While I totally believe in monogamy, I do have to question if it's natural. Rather, it seems to be more of a choice--perhaps one that we make every day. When the institution of marriage began, people didn't live as long...
  • Commented on When Fantasies Become Reality
    When working with my clients, I suggest that partners create a fantasy together. Often this is best done when they're hanging out, rather than when they're getting it on. Although, the activity does tend to lead to exciting sack sessions....
  • Commented on pain during sex
    I also can't help but question if this is related to how your partner is touching you. Do you use a good amount of lube when your partner uses her hand? If not, adding lube can make all the difference....
  • Commented on pain during sex
    It's never easy to know you have pain, and not receive a diagnosis. To get to the bottom of your discomfort, I have a few questions for you to consider. To start, did the nurse practitioner do a manual exam?...
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