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• Commented on My Husband Has No Interest in Sex with Me
  what was discussed during the therapy sessions? where there things that you needed to do as homework? Were emotional issues uncovered? Intimacy is a responsibility of both a Husband and Wife. So if sex is as important to you as...
• Commented on lasting longer in bed
  Try getting an erection and not do anything sexual with it. Just stay erect for as long as you can. See if you can keep yourself erect for 30 minutes. You can use your hand to manipulate but do not...
• Commented on Lost Sexual Drive
  Before you we can discuss how to navigate a lost libido after cessation of estrogen therapy we need to address the fact that the two of you are not on the same page. And that She does not share the...
• Commented on Wife Unable To Orgasm
  Definitely not a good idea to think that it is "all you" or as Dr. C said go on a mission. I will say that I am interested in what she means when she says "it gets to intense" and...
• Commented on Problem with Erection
  I applaud your willingness to share. What I want you to understand is that erectile dysfunction or soft erections are not a "problem" in it of themselves. That is there are happy and sexually active men with soft erections. The...
• Commented on She Says The Point is to Cum! :(
  People enter sexual relationships with preconceived notions about what it is and what it means and how its supposed to be and what the goals are etc. These are the conceptions of intimacy that ultimately become peoples misconceptions and commonly...
• Commented on Abstaining During Marriage
  AS YOU CAN SEE TERRI THE CONSENSUS HERE IS TO ASSERTIVELY EXPRESS WHAT YOU WANT AND NEED AND WHAT YOU NO LONGER ARE WILLING TO ACCEPT. IF HE DOES THE SAME THEN YOU WILL AT LEAST HAVE A SENSE OF...
• Commented on low libido and lovers.
  How did it get to being 10 years? My point is that telling him its important to you is inconsistent with the fact that you stayed by him despite not having a sex life with him. Is there a way...
• Commented on Too Young to Be Broken?
  Here is a crude but simple formula. If you stop masturbating to porn of any kind. you will develop more of a sexual interest in real life things. Your concern about size will be less and less of a reason...
• Commented on No orgasm
  Dr. Castellanos advice should be strongly considered. A physical exam is a vital step in the workup here. However you describe a psychological process that may be a bit challenging to fully describe with purely a gyn issue:you said that...
• Commented on 25+ Years with Pornography
  Definitely warrants getting a therapist who is experienced and has helped people in your situation. Its not just a matter of changing behavior, it needs to be looked at more globally in your life.......
• Commented on Girl on Girl?!? NEED ADVICE!
  Less advice on how and more suggestion of caution before you go forward. You capitalized WATCHES ONLY... Sexual experiences that include others do exactly that include others. Make sure you and he is ready for that change. Even if he...
• Commented on Husband Wants Sex Too Often
  This is your relationship being played out in the bedroom... Was there a time when you did not find the frequency offensive? Or a time when he "did not take too long" for you to view the experience as enjoyable?...
• Commented on Cougar Sex for Young Men
  There is novelty to be found in intimate match ups with people with different characteristics, age being one of them. Our society has sexual trends and younger men and older women is certainly a much discussed sexual trend. I has...
• Commented on Advice for Good Sex!?!
  There are an unlimited number of things to try. However to spice up the sex life of a couple who have been together for a while breaking the monotony (even if great sex) is what is needed. And for that,...
• Commented on Female Erogenous Zones
  Check out the goodinbed guide to female orgasms and the goodinbed guide to orally pleasuring a women where detail on this topic can be found....
• Commented on Things don't work
  Something is going on. You are not a whiner but you need to see this may not be about you. Is it possible that she is depressed? When was the last time she had a comprehensive medical work up? Has...
• Commented on Double standard
  I think there are "double standards" in both male and female directions in relationships. So I think the is a more central issue here for you. Saying no when approached for intimacy in a monogamous relationship is tricky. It demonstrates...
• Commented on Penis Size Issue
  Penis size is important to most men. As "no one you know" says: it made me feel good. I assume he is referring to seeing and feeling a substantial erection when masturbating. It is a masculine identity thing. And thinking...
• Commented on Strip Clubs
  Going with him is an interesting idea, he may like it or may try to avoid it. In any case if you choose to do so, do it because you actually want to have a good time and not because...
• Commented on Abstaining During Marriage
  There are things going on that are unsaid and need to be addressed. Sex was once an act of unity for you and now may become an agent of separation. And even worse a currency of getting what you or...
• Commented on Men and Porn: When does pleasure become a problem?
  Liking porn a lot and thinking its great, does not make it an Addiction. And despite the social commentary that can be made about penis size and whether or not a women would do or not do something in real...
• Commented on Silent Intercourse
  Sound perception is a a vital medium of communication. I like the comments above by Dr. C and Manspeak1. I think if you are going to request something of your partner, be also willing to try and find enjoyment her...
• Commented on ED & Medication
  giving it time and having patience is important. you should also attempt to get an erection and see how firm you are able to get and for how long you can maintain it. Do this daily or ever other day...
• Commented on Safe oral sex
  Yes you can give a blow job while he wears a condom... you may want to get flavored condoms or at least ones that do not have spermacide......
• Commented on How Can I Help
  Ask yourself Norma, If he is "quite happy with that" why are you frustrated? What do you get from manipulating him that you are not getting? It is unlikely that his penis is going to get any bigger and if...
• Commented on Safe oral sex
  Have you discussed this with your partner? One avenue is getting tested for std's together. Some STD's are readily treated and others are more long term and scarier... There is a line that most clinicians walk stating that "nothing is...
• Commented on Desire For Sex
  Having sex with a man taking viagra is not the same as having sex with a man who needs viagra. As you said it yourself: He does not play it right. This means that you need to communicate with him...
• Commented on Male Enhancement Pills
  Products that promise things like Male Enhancement are banking on the notion that you will think that you could afford to see if "it really works". The reality is that "it" does not. If there was a pill that can...
• Commented on I Need More Sex Than My Husband!
  I hear that you ask for it more but how would you describe the work responsibilities during sex? Who does more in bed? how much more? What does he think of your body image? How does he see you? Have...