Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

  • Commented on Sex advice?
    It certainly sounds like performance anxiety has contributed to this problem, and many comments here have addressed this as well as behavioral, mechanical, and pharmaceutical ways to help. But I'm struck by the fact that the way you describe this...
  • Posted The DSM and NIMH: Why Insel Got It Right, and What It Means for Sexology to Queer Eye for Sex
    In a move that is causing consternation among psychiatrists, Thomas Insel, Director of the National Institutes of Mental Health, announced that NIMH will be 're-orienting its research away from DSM categories.' Insel called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the Bible...
  • Posted What We Can All Learn from Gay Couples to Queer Eye for Sex
    By now most people have heard about John Gottman's research comparing gay and straight couples, publicized a few years back. Gottman, a respected psychologist and researcher, did a study of gay relationships that revealed that for the most part same...
  • Commented on Desensitised vagina and clitoris
    To piggyback onto what Ian has suggested, I'd want a lot more thorough medical work-up than just 'it appeared healthy.' Make sure you go to a specialist - urologists and gynecologists, primarily - who have training in sexual medicine. If...
  • Commented on Marriage and sex
    The advice you've been given so far is excellent, imo. But....sometimes as a sex therapist I do see couples where there is genuine, long-term rather than occasional discrepancies in interest in sexual frequency. I urge compromise - would you be...
  • Posted Sex Tips from the Leather World, Part Two to Queer Eye for Sex
    First, let me say a little more about decoupling sex and love. Because, imho, the source of many of our sexual difficulties is our sloppy sentimentality about sex and love. The reason we personalize our partner's sexual behavior so much...
  • Posted Sex Tips for Vanilla Couples from the Leather World, Part One to Queer Eye for Sex
    I hate these kinds of articles- my eyes glaze over when I see them- and so this is the first time I've written one. But I think my advice might be slightly different from what you've have heard before. For...
  • Posted Fifty Shades of Facts to Queer Eye for Sex
    There's good news and bad news, imo, about the success of 'Fifty Shades of Grey.' The good news is that women's erotic life is getting a boost.....as in 'validated'......as is women's interest in kinky fantasy sex.  The bad news:  Christian...
  • Posted Diapers, Dads, Testosterone and the Mommy Culture to Queer Eye for Sex
    Two articles about gender differences and childcare have been on my mind lately.  The first is an article by Tara Parker-Pope published early in 2012 in the Times Sunday Magazine.  She reports on research showing the predictable gender differences in child-care...
  • Posted How to Raise a Child Who is Different to Queer Eye for Sex
    This is another blog about parenting, but from a different perspective.  A while ago I wrote about how parenting styles don't matter. This is about something that does. We know through research that kids who are 'different' can be shielded...
  • Posted Ten Things You Need to Know About Gender Nonconforming and Transgender Youth to Queer Eye for Sex
    IPG, the Institute for Personal Growth, just initiated  supportive counseling groups for gender variant and transgender youth, and for their parents.  We're realizing that most people are woefully misinformed about these kids, so we came up with a list of...
  • Posted The Trans Explosion - What's Happening? to Queer Eye for Sex
    Many people are puzzled and confused by what seems to an explosion of people who identify as transgender, genderqueer, gender fluid, or something else that is not 'male' or 'female.' Even to LGB folk,  the changes seem to have occurred...
  • Posted How to Talk About Sex. I Mean REALLY Talk About Sex to Queer Eye for Sex
    I'm frustrated by hearing sex experts tell people to 'communicate better' about sex.  I'm impatient with advice to 'tell your partner what you want.'  For one thing, many people don't know what they want.  Even those who can be pretty specific...
  • Posted Sex and the Older (Bisexual) Lesbian to Queer Eye for Sex
    The Journal of Sex Research is one of my favorite professional journals, and a recent issue included a study on sexual identity and sexual behavior in older lesbians, those 51 or older at the time of the survey -...
  • Posted The DSM 5 and LGBT Rights: Still Crazy After All These Years? to Queer Eye for Sex
    Two things recently have made me think about that important piece of LGBT history, the 'de-classification' of homosexuality as a mental illness in 1973.  The first is the news, released this week, that the fifth edition of the 'Bible' of psychiatric...
  • Posted Is the LGBT Community 'Recruiting the Young?' to Queer Eye for Sex
    Recently I saw a special report put out by the Gallup organization on the results of polling done last year.   Gallup asked 120,000 people the following questions: 'Do you, personally, identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender?'  This is the...
  • Commented on How long should an erection last?
    This is called 'rapid ejaculation.' It's definitely frustrating for the partner, and usually embarrassing for the guy, but there are things that can be done to help this. And although it affects you, it's not 'about' you. It's not so...
  • Posted GSD: Not Just Another Queer Alphabet Soup to The Sex Doctors are In!
    A couple of weeks ago, the Pink Therapy group in the UK made news by proclaiming 'GSD' - Gender and Sexual Diversities - as the new umbrella term for a community that seems to add letters by the season. Seriously,...
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