Logan Levkoff, Ph.D.

  • Commented on Dirty Talk with a woman
    The short answer is, "No." There is no right way to talk dirty; there is no set of rules. You didn't do anything wrong, you simply responded in a way that made you comfortable. Dirty talk can be provocative, teasing,...
  • Commented on Trouble With Sex
    Colleen, Good relationships are about mutual pleasure - both emotional and sexual pleasure. Often times if we don't speak up about our need for pleasure (or how to give us pleasure), our partners just continue doing what they're doing because...
  • Commented on Benefits of Sex
    Benefits of sex apply to all sexual partnerships - they are certainly not limited to a particular sexual orientation. There is no doubt that orgasms are good for you. They relieve stress, cramps, help you relax, are a natural pain...
  • Commented on Orgasm
    Women and men just aren't built the same...which is hard to get past, because so much of what we learn about sex comes from a male perspective (like having regular orgasms from sex). Most of us cannot do this, and...
  • Commented on Pain
    Hugnkiss, I would add that for all the people who enjoy doggie-style sex, there are plenty of people who don't enjoy it because of that very reason you're describing. If you want to continue trying sex in this position, it...
  • Commented on Desire For Sex
    Vida, in addition to the challenges that come from a partner who is using Viagra if he doesn't need it, it's also important to recognize that sex will never feel good if you aren't well lubricated. There's nothing worse than...
  • Commented on Satisfaction
    In addition to asking (Anna and Kristen are certainly correct), it's important to know that men and women are built differently. Get to know a woman's body/anatomy. Unlike men who almost always achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse, many women need...
  • Commented on Sex Desires
    Jimm, Extreme desires and curiosities about sex are a natural part of growing up. Instead of reducing these desires, perhaps you can find a comfortable way of releasing or expressing them. I agree with Anna in her suggestion of masturbation....
  • Commented on Condom Use?
    Shamoo, Using condoms is an essential part of maintaining a healthy sex life if you or your partners are male. (Female condoms are a great option, too.) Condoms are the only contraceptive option that offer protection against sexually transmitted infections...
  • Commented on Orgasms
    Barbie, that's a great question for a lot of reasons. First, we are sexual beings throughout our lives. Sex is definitely not just for the young; we are all entitled to pleasurable and fulfilling sex at all ages. I suppose...
  • Commented on Period
    I think that it's really important to remember that condoms are the only birth control option that offer protection against sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. You may not be concerned about this if you are in a monogamous relationship, you...
  • Commented on Second Round?
    Firefighter is correct in that as men age their refractory period typically gets longer. I think that it's important to realize that not every partner wants to have sex again right after an orgasm or ejaculation. (Sometimes, but definitely not...
  • Commented on Sex when you're on the pill!
    There are a lot of things to consider: The birth control pill only offers protection against pregnancy, not any sexually transmitted infections. It would be remiss of me not to acknowledge that. But hopefully you both have been tested. Clearly...
  • Commented on Oral Sex
    It's also important to remember that oral sex is an incredibly intimate behaviors. If someone has any body or genital insecurities it can make the idea of oral sex very uncomfortable....
  • Commented on Am I Weird
    It's the isolation of not sharing your desires with a partner that make us feel weird. But as most people have said prior, there are many people who are turned on and sexually fulfilled by a range of experiences, people,...
  • Commented on Confused
    Firefighter brings up a good point. Does your husband know that this situation is upsetting to you? Sometimes, even after 15 years, we think that our partners are mind readers. Unfortunately, we and our relationships are always evolving and we...
  • Commented on Postpartum Sex
    The postpartum issue aside...there's no way to determine what sex will be like after the months of separation. It may be tender, intense, quick, passionate - the adjectives are endless. But I can imagine that you have some anxiety about...
  • Commented on Masturbation
    Masturbation gets a bad rap... Throughout history, we have been taught that masturbation is evil, dirty, harmful, and is a sign that a relationship has problems. All of these are completely untrue. Masturbation - in and out of a relationship...
  • Commented on Sex is just not important to my wife
    Our sexuality is affected by a myriad of things: how we learn about sex, our ability to communicate our needs, our understanding of our bodies, how we internalize the many messages we receive about sex, stress, body image, and yes,...
  • Posted How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You to The Sex Doctors are In!
    Okay guys, stop all your whining and complaining for a second and listen up: If you want more sex from your wives, you have to grow up and recognize that people change, relationships change, and your sex life doesn't stay...
  • Commented on anal sex
    As Ian and Ed have said earlier, there is nothing wrong with wanting to try things that are outside of what is conventional or "normal" for you. With respect to talking dirty, there are different ways to bring this up...
  • Commented on BEING PHOTOGRAPHED
    I have a different perspective to offer. For me, there is definitely a difference between nude photos and those that contain you and your wife engaging in intimate behaviors. There is nothing wrong in wanting to explore more explicit art;...
  • Commented on Maintaining sexual desire for the long-run
    I think that it's important to remember that we are bombarded with hundreds of messages that inadvertently sabotage our relationships. Think of all of our magazine stories: "Have the hottest sex ever!" "Make it like it was when you first...
  • Commented on What do you think of the concept of chore-play?
    Full disclosure: When I first heard it, I bristled at the term "choreplay." However, in my work and research, many women say that a partner who helps them around the home can turns them on, and in turn, enhance their...
  • Commented on Difficulty Giving Girlfriend Orgasm
    I fear that we spend so much time focusing and waiting for the "climax" that we don't enjoy the journey (so to speak). Pleasure takes time and perhaps if we focused more on the wonderful sensations leading up to orgasm...
  • Commented on Stressed wife
    Jarow, it is wonderful to know that you love to pleasure your wife. Perhaps I can give you some insight as to what she is experiencing. It is difficult to see sex as a stress reliever when she is so...
  • Commented on My husband gets bored during foreplay
    David, I think you have a point. We assume (especially after years of being together) that our partners automatically know what we want, need, etc. It's always helpful to remind ourselves that our relationships evolve and we do, too. And...
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