Gail Saltz

  • Commented on Stoking the Flames
    Candida royale films are great, they are softer pron made with women in mind. But i also meant a movie that you find sexy...which doesn't need to be erotica per se...something like "bodyheat" which is just plain sexy....
  • Posted Sex and the Empty Nest to The Sex Doctors are In!
    When Kate's youngest child left for college, she had mixed emotions. She was excited for her son but sad about the loss of her daily kid-focused routine. Those feelings didn't surprise her  -- she'd heard all about empty-nest syndrome from...
  • Commented on S&M?
    Be very frank, tell him exactly your concern and see what he says. He may have misread your response to his talking about riding crops etc and thought you were interested too. If you make it clear where the boundaries...
  • Commented on Emotional Affair---I Guess
    I would add, are you sure you want to be with a person who is "only staying with their girlfriend because she makes money and he doesn't". If he has no problem cheating with you, then you may find he...
  • Commented on When Is It Time To Give Up?
    perhaps its time to tell her you are very distressed about this and ask to see a sex therapist together. If you feel you've tried everything and she is not responding a thrid party can help tease apart the problem...
  • Commented on Low Sex Drive/ Loss of Mojo
    one issue with porn is that it changes your view of the female body and real women don't stimulate you in the way that the porno women do. This is why you would be best off moving altogether away from...
  • Commented on Orgasm
    If you know what works for you, then you need to show your husband how to replicate that same stimulation with his hand or mouth. Have a session of mutual masturbation where you guide his hand to show exactly what...
  • Commented on Lack of Communication
    sometimes cuddling is not taken as such, but seen as a way to then have sex. Try saying you'd like to just cuddle or just trade massages with no possibility that it would lead to sex. That takes the pressure...
  • Commented on Wife's Lack of Arousal
    Is she on any new medications...a number of meds can make reaching orgasm more difficult and sometimes cutting back or switching to another similiar med is possible. Using the vibrator all the time can also make having an orgasm any...
  • Commented on What makes you feel sexual?
    I think the inverse is also true...the way you feel about your sexual self affects the way you feel about your competance and abilities in the world at large, with other relationships and at work. If you are lacking sexual...
  • Commented on How do I convince him that kissing and foreplay are important?
    Show him just how hot making out can be. Make it playful and do to him exactly what you'd like him to do to you. Do some groping of your own and put his hands where you would like them....
  • Commented on Don't feel as horny as I used to...
    loss of desire can be due to decreasing testosterone, and it also could be due to new medications or even due to medical problems like vascular disease or diabetes. This makes it an important symptom to go see your doctor...
  • Commented on Fear is Ruining my Sex Life
    This sounds more like an anxiety problem than a sexual problem. Fears of contracting disease can be a part of generalized anxiety disorder (tending to worry about everything), hypochrondiasis (worrying you have diseases you don't have) or obsessive compulsive disorder...
  • Commented on Relationship
    When he feels terrible about himself, he is not going to feel sexual desire. The goal is to help him see his own value and worth. He is more than just a job. What else can he do well? Build...
  • Commented on Not Getting Any
    Antidepressants can decrease desire and arousal. When he says you are his mother, he is likely not referring to how you look actually, but rather how he "sees" you in the relationship. He is saying there is something about the...
  • Commented on Husband Not Physically Satified, So I'm Not Sexual
    I would tell your husband that you are working to lose some weight, for both of you, and would like his support and encouragement. This will help if the weight is the issue, but it may also allow him to...
  • Commented on Sexual Desire
    Being turned on by all kinds of aspects of your partners body appearance and smell is normal. If, however, the only way to get turned on at all or your only focus is one that doesn't have to do with...
  • Posted When Wives Want Sex More than Their Husbands to The Sex Doctors are In!
    Ever since the advent of Viagra, we've been led to believe that hot sex is as close as the nearest pharmacy. If the millions of prescriptions filled for the "little blue pill" are any indication, men can solve their sexual...
  • Commented on ED or NOT
    anxiety can definitely cause you to lose or not be able to get an erection. Unfortunately once that happens many men have even more anxiety and it becomes a vicious cycle. One way to breal the cycle is to take...
  • Commented on No Sex Sucks
    Get healthy with your wife, do it as a team, so you can encourage and support each other. Start brisk walking and then jogging together, plan and make some meals together. If you help her lose weight it will feel...
  • Commented on Sex Drive
    If he is still not interested in sex, while on testosterone, I would go back to his doctor and ask about whether his current levels are therapeutic. If they are then I would try doing a couple of sessions with...
  • Commented on Vaginal odour
    Several kinds of infections can cause a bad vaginal odor, and there ,ay not be other symptoms...so it would be worth her checking with her gyn. But thhis is probably only the case if there was a change in her...
  • Commented on It's All About Her
    It is possible he is holding off you you, but then it is also possible he is having difficulty climaxing himself. Some men need different kinds of stimulation besides intercourse and don't feel ok about this, so he might not...
  • Commented on Postpartum Sex
    You are understandable nervous that he will have changed, and that you also may have changed. At first it may even seem that way, but if you look just beneath the surface the same two people who loved and married...
  • Commented on Confused
    are you initiating? Some women wait for him to always be the one to ask or start things and sometimes he ends up feeling undesired as a result and just kind of quits. Why don't you initiate sex, clearly and...
  • Commented on Where's my Sex Drive?
    Having a baby can decrease your sex drive for multiple reasons. Hormones are still shifting, particularly if you are nursing. Also, and perhaps more importantly, caring for a baby means getting touched ALOT. All that touching can indirectly satisfy alot...
  • Commented on Disinterested wife....
    I would suspect that the angrier you act the less sex she will have. This becomes a vicious cycle. Instead saying you would like to listen to her thoughts about what would work in terms of having sex more frequently....
  • Commented on Sexual Preference
    Whatever the case for you, as long as you aren't hurting a partner who is in the dark and are practicing safe sex, it is great to be comfortable with who you are and who you want....
  • Commented on Sexual Preference
    One thing that can happen with age is more comfort in who you are and what you like as well as less concern over what other people will think. This why it is not unusual for a person who has...
  • Commented on Disinterested husband
    Losing a job and feeling worthless can ceratinly effect a mans libido. Looking at porn can provide a "safe substitute" where he may feel he won't be seen as failed in bed, in addition to everywhere else. When you talk...
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