Hilda Hutcherson, M.D.

  • Commented on Fiance doesn't want to give oral sex
    I think that oral sex is one of the easiest routes to orgasm for many, if not most, women. I suggest that you have a calm and rational discussion with your fiance about your needs and desires. Ask for what...
  • Commented on Painful sex and very little sex drive
    Speak to your gyn about vaginal estrogens, like Vagifem or Estring. Vagifem is an estrogen tablet that is placed in your vagina twice a week. The amount of estrogen is low and does not increase risks of blood clots or...
  • Commented on Sexual Positions Causing Wife Pain
    It sounds like she is having pain with deep penetration. When she is on her stomach and penetrated from the rear, the penetration is more shallow. There are many reasons for pain with deep penetration. Fibroids, ovarian cysts, pelvic adhesions,...
  • Commented on Sex with Mirena
    This is definitely not normal. A well placed Mirena IUD should not injure your penis. You should not feel it at all. It is possible that it is partially out and the bottom is sitting in, or extruding from, her...
  • Commented on Painful sex and sexual desire
    Well, if you are not attracted to your boyfriend, (in fact you are somewhat repulsed by the changes in his body,) and you have painful sex, you can expect to have low sexual desire. Sex should not be painful. And...
  • Commented on White, seminal fluid looking substance, female created-expert opinion?
    No need to worry. When a woman becomes aroused, she releases fluid through the walls of her vagina. This fluid can change in amount and consistency during the month. Just before ovulation, it may be clear and like egg whites....
  • Commented on Painful Vuvla Area
    The suppository may not be enough to help your vulva. I would recommend a small amount (size of a lima bean) of estrogen cream rubbed into the skin of your vulva (where you feel the discomfort) every night for 4...
  • Commented on Sex at Age 70
    She should certainly discuss this with her gynecologist. There are local estrogens that can be used to help with arousal. Once her vagina becomes moist again, sex should become pleasurable and her interest in sex may increase....
  • Commented on Vaginal Dryness
    I have seen women with the same complaint. It is possible that after your wife experiences orgasm, she is completely satisfied and it is difficult for her to remain aroused and focused on sex. (Most men experience something similar after...
  • Commented on Painful Vuvla Area
    Your problem is actually quite common. When your estrogen levels drop after menopause, your vagina and vulva may become dry. The skin also becomes thinner and more easily injured. So when you have sex, the tissue around the opening of...
  • Commented on How do you Maintain Intimacy for the Long Haul?
    There are two types of sexual arousal — mental and physical. In the beginning of a relationship, we have no shortage of sexy thoughts and feelings that turn us on and create a sense of sexual anticipation, but after a...
  • Posted When Your Daughter Becomes a Mother: Do's and Don'ts for First-Time Grandmas to The Sex Doctors are In!
    As an ob-gyn, I'm often asked how mothers and daughters can celebrate the birth of a baby without clashing over details. A grandchild's arrival is a wonderful opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your daughter as she learns the...
  • Commented on Pregnancy
    Sperm can actually live for 5 days. And you usually ovulate between 14 and 16 days before you begin your next period. Putting all of that together, either man may be the father of your baby....
  • Commented on Prostate Massager
    I would suggest that you try massaging his prostate with your finger first, after asking his permission of course. Your finger is smaller and you will have better control over your movements. Make sure that your nails are short and...
  • Commented on Flavored Lubes Safe for Oral Sex?
    The lubes are meant to be placed on the vulva during oral sex, not inside the vagina. And the idea is to remove all of it orally before moving on to other activities. Most women will not get a yeast...
  • Commented on Patting the Vagina
    Some women will pat the vulva and clitoris to increase blood flow and increase clitoral erection, and I think that is the case in the porn movies. I agree that you should make sure this is something that your partner...
  • Commented on Achieving Orgasm for a Woman with Partial Female Circumcision
    Most women that I have seen with female circumcision have been able to teach themselves how to experience orgasm. The key is the knowledge that the clitoris is actually much larger than what is usually visible. The normal clitoris has...
  • Commented on Wet and Wide
    I am against vaginal surgery to "tighten" the vagina. Instead, I suggest choosing positions that help to increase friction. For instance, if you are on top, have her straighten her legs and pull them close together once you enter. You...
  • Commented on Bedroom Confidence
    You need to figure out why you are still shy when it comes to sex. Are you uncomfortable with your body? Are you concerned that you lack skills in the bedroom? Did you receive negative messages about sex as a...
  • Commented on HERPES
    As a gynecologist, I can assure you that herpes is a lot more common than you may think. When you receive the news that you have herpes, it can seem that you are the only person in the world with...
  • Commented on Vaginal Sensitivity
    I suggest that she speak with her gynecologist about the pain on penetration. She may have a physical problem, like vaginismus, that can be treated. Of course, if she has pain, it will be very difficult for her to become...
  • Commented on Making my boyfriend come
    I am struck by the phrase :..."not being able to make him orgasm." The fact is that you are not responsible for his orgasm. I am wondering whether his lack of orgasm is making you feel inadequate in bed. I...
  • Commented on Sex is painful
    She most likely has vaginal dryness and atrophy (thinning) of the walls of her vagina due to the loss of estrogen hormone. Vaginal dryness is a very common cause of painful sex. Imagine 2 dry surfaces rubbing against each other...
  • Commented on hormone therapy
    I only recommend hormone replacement therapy for women with symptoms that are severe, related to loss of hormones, and not controlled by natural therapies. Your symptoms of fatigue, depression and weight loss are not necessarily related to menopause and hormone...
  • Commented on Hormonal Birth Control and Desire
    There actually are more studies that show no effect on sexual desire than ones that show a lowering of desire with the birth control pill. That said, I certainly have seen many patients who noticed a decrease in desire after...
  • Commented on I have a foreplay question: kissing!
    Some people just aren't into kissing. And that's okay. You might try adding necking and massage to the 3 minutes of kissing that he is willing to provide. Let him know that you love kissing, touching and massaging his amazing...
  • Commented on Question about hand-jobs
    I think that few women try hand-jobs because they fear that they won't do a good job. After all, men learn how to bring themselves pleasure with their hands at a very young age. How could we possibly compare? But...
  • Commented on Penis Insensitivity
    Sometimes adding a drop of a water based lubricant at the top of a condom that has a pouch at the top can increase sensitivity and pleasure that he feels....
  • Commented on Low sex drive/Mirena IUD
    Many of my patients have complained of decreased libido, PMS and mood swings in the first few months after receiving the Mirena IUD. That may be because there is a slight increase in your progesterone levels in those first few...
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