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• Commented on Soreness after Sex
  My wife is 52 and will occasionally get sore after a spirited or long session, also if we do it more than two days in a row. We use lots of lube, but she still has a little soreness sometimes....
• Commented on Regrets over previous requests for something new in the bedroom
  I think that you should run with it. She loves you enough to do what it takes to stimulate you. I can understand that it is new and a little scary, but all you can do is talk to her....
• Commented on Sex After Infidelty
  I think that the two of you should lay everything out. Ask him what made her "better". From this site and plenty of others, you can up your technique, learn new stuff and leave him feeling like a noodle. I've...
• Commented on Increase Married Sex
  I was in the same boat as you about a year ago. I had a serious talk with my wife and things improved, but still not to my desire of satisfaction. I showed her this article http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex_and_intimacy/understanding-your-husbands-sexual-needs.aspx?p=1&series=1 and the connection...
• Commented on ED After Deployment
  Try a ring. It goes around your penis to restrict blood flow out. I use one with great results....
• Commented on What is Amazing Sex?
  For me, amazing sex is emotional. My wife of thirty years and have an amazing love life. It is spontaneous, planned, quick, long, romantic, animalistic, you name it. From your question, I am guessing that you are in your 30's...
• Commented on Are you comfortable talking about sex?
  My wife and I are very comfortable talking about our love life. it took a while for her to get comfortable talking about it, she is a little more reserved than I. When we do talk about what we would...
• Commented on Flavored Lubes Safe for Oral Sex?
  We have used a variety of flavored lubes from KY, Wet!, and Adam and Eve, none with any infection problems. However, when my wife is a little sore and irritated from frequent sex, the citrus and fruit flavors sting a...
• Commented on Penis Size and Toys
  Judging from my experience, I think you can believe her. I am a little larger than average, 2" x 7.3" and my wife complains that I simply wear her out. She enjoys me, but usually ends up sore. She has...
• Commented on Sex: how much does it really matter?
  In response to Dan Savage's "establish compatibility early and often", over time, people change. What was sexual compatibility 28 years ago for my wife and I is not now. We both changed some, had cooling off periods and periods where...
• Commented on Sex: how much does it really matter?
  I am extremely lucky in my marriage. Both my wife and I feel that making love is a huge part of our lives. (We don't "have sex", we make love) I have a higher libido than she does, so we...
• Commented on Need a mans perspective!
  Three things immediately come to mind for me. 1. Do a sexy striptease for him. Don't let hime touch you during the show, but get real close, touch him and touch yourself. 2. Take charge. Lie on top of him,...
• Commented on Shower vs Grower
  Why not just enjoy the look of surprise on someone's face?...
• Commented on Maintaining sexual desire for the long-run
  My wife and I have been together for 30 years. We have had periods where family, job stress, boredom, etc have taken some of the zing out of our relationship. I think that the most important way to handle this...
• Commented on Erection Issues
  Believe me, I know where you're coming from. I am a bit older than you, but frequently (not always) have the desire, but lack "lead in the pencil". I have tried a variety of rings from Adam and Eve and...
• Commented on How to deal with sexual incompatibility
  (cont'd) I think that the key was to bring the thrill seeking in very slowly and gently, while also giving her the safe, comfortable routine that she likes. She is now more than willing to try new things and new...
• Commented on How to deal with sexual incompatibility
  My wife and I are (or were) somewhat incompatible for a long time. I am the thrill seeker, she is the comfort seeker. For a while I was really bored with our love life, but the change began when we...
• Commented on What's a good way to change positions during sex?
  First off, relax. My wife and I have been together for 30 years and I still get and throw the occasional errant elbow or knee. It happens. We find it best to say, "Let's try the...", then we both sort...
• Commented on What do you think of the concept of chore-play?
  I never really considered it "choreplay", but I work out of town for extended periods of time and then am off for a few weeks. My wife has to do all the work while I'm gone, so when I'm home,...
• Commented on Too Much For Her
  Thanks, Ian and Emily. We do use waterbased lubes because we can switch from intercourse to oral. The silicone lubes do NOT taste good. The silicone is a little harder to clean up as well. Maybe for the final round...
• Posted Too Much For Her to The Good in Bed Forums
  According to my friends (male and female) that I have discussed this with, I have an unusual problem. I am of above average penis size, 7.3 inches long and definitely do NOT have a problem with premature ejaculation. My wife...