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• Commented on sex life
  I hope your man stays sober but also joins AA. There is a lot of wisdom gained from the rooms. It is not my job to counsel but I believe much of the problems comes from alcoholism. My personality changed...
• Commented on Husband doesn't initiate sex
  Dr, I think you said something I have been experiencing for some time now. I too worry about upsetting my wife with my desires. We have been married for 36 years and we unfortunately have fallen apart sexually. I had...
• Commented on Regrets over previous requests for something new in the bedroom
  I was made to feel as if I stepped outside the comfort zone we established early in our marriage. Perhaps with aging and physical changes, new things are required for stimulation both visual and sensual. However, those changes can be...
• Posted Regrets over previous requests for something new in the bedroom to The Good in Bed Forums
  I know the topic may sound a bit complicated. However, here are the facts. My wife and I have been married for 35 years. During our married life, we have never really discussed our likes and dislikes in regards to...
• Commented on loss of interest in intimacy
  If I could offer a perspective from a mans point of view, I think boredom and taking each other for granted can lead to problems. You also mentioned a possible affair your husband had. I dont know what to say...
• Commented on Stressed in bed
  From a guys perspective (actually an older man perspective) your desire to improve your confidence is admirable. You pointed out your concerns about being viewed as a whore. Although it has been changing,our society has skewed the view of sex....
• Commented on Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
  Hi Luna, Sorry for my delay in responding. I was out of the country and had limited access. Anyway, for me it is not to complain about my sex life. It is to point out what others on this thread...
• Commented on Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
  I really dont have any fantasies other than to have a sex life. I think if I were to die in the sack, the coroner would say cause of death is boredom. Believe it or not, we have been married...
• Commented on Lack of feedback
  I would suppose things could get better for you and your wife in regards to communication. In my situation, comments and responses from the past by my wife haunt me. I know that sounds weird. It is is sexual PTSD....
• Commented on Lack of feedback
  I too could have started this comment thread. There is no sexual communication in my marriage. I dont want to sound like I am complaining but it does make me wonder if there is something wrong with me for wanting...
• Commented on Going down on your woman
  This may not help but have you tried not going down on him? In other words, a taste of his own medicine. I know it may sound a bit harsh but when he asks why you arent going down, you...
• Commented on Performing oral sex on my boyfriend makes him feel "intimidated"???
  Although I am not one of the experts on this site, I am a guy reacts the same way as your man. Oral sex to completion is probably one of the coolest things a woman can do to please her...
• Commented on Help in building confidence -- penis enlargement
  I havent been down your road but am not what you would call endowed. I think my wife is okay with it but then again she is very tight even after all these years. I agree with 1KG. Penis size...
• Commented on new horizons
  I dont think I have ever seen the question posed this way in which the women is interested in that. Wow, maybe you should ask him what reservations he may have about anal sex. I guess maybe I am kind...
• Commented on Husband that wont ejaculate from Oral
  MsV, Maybe he doesnt want to or cant because of a mental block, I must say I admire your desire for him to do that. I cant do it with my wife. We have been married 34 years and we...
• Commented on Woman with higher sex drive...
  I am in a similar position but with the reverse occuring. My wife has a much lower creativity level. Her sex drive is okay but she lacks in creativity. After over 30 years of marriage, I am bored out of...
• Commented on Boyfriend Can't Climax from Oral
  I cant cum in my wifes mouth either. I think it is great the original poster wants to please her man that way. WOW! Have you asked him why he is cant? Does he require different stimulation or is he...
• Commented on vaginal appearance
  From a guys perspective, how would you be if you had one breast or had reconstructive surgery due to cancer? If a guy is turned off by the look of your parts, is he worth being with? As a guy...
• Commented on Penis size issues
  Dr, I am not sure how to ask this question but does testosterone affect penis size as we get older? In other words, if someone has low T or is being treated for it, we know it can affect erectile...
• Commented on A virgin at 27, is this weird?
  Daisy, please dont think you are weird for being virgin at age 27. It is part of the way you are. Dont feel pressured to have sex because society somehow looks at that as being old fashioned. There are guys...
• Posted Questions Regarding Bedroom Boredom Survey by Kristen Mark to The Good in Bed Forums
  I was astonished (but not too much)to read the results of the bedroom boredom survey. I will admit that I am in the group that would call our sex life comatose and sometimes DOA. My question is this; Are we...
• Commented on Waiting Till Marriage
  Anna, I think you hit it right on the head with the comment about repression. I have viewed the Christian Nymphos website. In fact I have suggested it to my wife. According to her there is no such thing as...
• Commented on Waiting Till Marriage
  When my wife and I married over 30 years ago, she was virgin. Yes, it was tempting while were dating but her commitment to remaining virgin outweighed everything else. However, with her trying to keep that good girl image it...
• Commented on Sex Compromise for Married Couples Creates Lack of Desire
  I am not sure I have an answer. I also have a posting below ( new things.... relationship anxiety) I am still trying to figure out my situation. However, I wonder if being a virgin has something to do with...
• Commented on Can talking about new things in the bedroom cause relationship tension?
  Thank you for all that have replied. I have to admit, I am a bit dumb with this and didnt realize her perspective on the matter might be of intimidation. We have never really talked a lot about sex in...
• Posted Can talking about new things in the bedroom cause relationship tension? to The Good in Bed Forums
  Hi, I have been married for over 30 years. We are empty nesters and enjoy that part of our life. As time goes on, I have expressed the desire to try new things. It has been met with episodes where...
• Commented on Wife says Sex is Not Important to Her
  If there is any humor to this ( which there is none)I didnt realize we were married to sisters. My wife told me after 32 years of marriage that sex was not a priority to her, yet she is highly...
• Commented on Dirty Talk with a woman
  Although I am no expert on this, I think you two are from different leagues. It sounds like you are more of a gentleman and she was more into getting -ucked. I think she may be more into "getting it...
• Commented on Married With Porno
  I am no marriage counselor but I do think porn can have a detrimental effect on married sex if it becomes excessive. It cann get the brain thinking both good and bad. I am not going to lie and tell...
• Commented on Men and Porn: When does pleasure become a problem?
  I'll take the first swing at this. I would think it is a problem when us men wish our sex lives were like the porn itself. The sad fact is, it isnt. Porn is just some images of what guys...