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• Commented on The vaginal orgasm
  You may also check out the movie Orgasm Inc.. It's a movie about the search for a female sexual arousal pill, and the discussion that comes up around female orgasm is fascinating....
• Commented on The vaginal orgasm
  Oh. This again! You're not alone. I don't know why, but somehow we've been taught that us ladies are supposed to be coming every ten seconds, every time we have sex, and every time we're touched. For most of us,...
• Commented on Making wife feel guilty?
  It may be that you just have to open up the therapy conversation. Couples' therapy is great because you have a mediator in the room with you--someone who [ideally] isn't going to take sides and is going to point out...
• Commented on I can't climax, but get turned on just fine
  Sometimes it is a mental thing--are you nervous around her? Do you feel a lot of pressure to come sooner than you do? Those things will really change your experience. Have you had any of these experiences before, or is...
• Commented on I'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend.
  Being assertive isn't necessarily something you have to have experience with in order to practice. We've all seen movies where someone takes control, and apparently he's seen YOU take control! It sounds like the two of you are very open...
• Commented on First time
  Her desire to lie down instead of being on top makes sense; sometimes people feel like they're not "experienced" enough to be on top. Don't worry about pillows. Do what comes naturally, but he gentle, patient, and loving. None of...
• Commented on Size- Too Big?
  Great question. Like you said, foreplay will never be a bad thing--during the stages of arousal, the cervix pulls up and causes the vagina itself to lengthen; this alone helps (and it helps all women, not just those with larger...
• Commented on Cant have orgasm anymore
  Have you recently changed or gone on any medications? That can play a huge role. Also, are you only trying to have orgasms with your partner, or solo as well? Sometimes things will change with our partners that seem to...
• Commented on First time
  Sounds like you're a caring partner! For some women, the first time having sex can be painful because of lack of sexual activity. Do you know if she has masturbated before, including inserting sex toys or other objects inside of...
• Commented on Im single and I only want to masturbate?
  Sounds like you have some self-esteem issues wrapped up in there. Porn and masturbating are totally convenient, and very different from having sex and being intimate with another person. If you want to have a relationship with another person, it...
• Commented on nylon fetish
  I agree with Ian, that if she's taking photos of women without them knowing, this should stop--this is non-consensual sexual activity, which means it's technically taking advantage of another person, and could be considered sexual assault. What exactly is your...
• Commented on I'm boring or he's addicted...
  Hey, this is great! It sounds like you guys have open communication and that he's into compromising, which is amazing. It may just be a work in progress--with lots of communication, honesty, and gentleness. Keep it up!...
• Commented on Making wife feel guilty?
  Do the two of you have any interest in or means to go to couples and/or individual therapy? Her anxiety, I imagine, isn't confined to the bedroom, and getting all of that straight may be huge. What happens when you...
• Commented on Body image and Sexual Attraction
  I agree with Kristen. Talk to your partner--it sounds like you two have a great relationship and that he's supportive of your endeavor to be healthier! I have found that when I'm living more healthfully (exercising, eating well, emotionally taking...
• Commented on Not happened yet...
  This is one of those times where you just have to bite the bullet and talk to him. Moving in together is a huge step, and things can get difficult if you're not communicating openly and lovingly. You deserve to...
• Commented on Terrified of oral sex
  If professional counseling is an option (financially, etc.), then YES! Definitely seek therapy--it's such an amazing tool & can really help with anxiety. You said your fears are overwhelming; you deserve to have a much "easier" life than that! I...
• Commented on Asexual?
  It may be worth exploring your desire/need for control. If sex isn't interesting for you because you have no desire for it, that may really be asexuality. However, if you don't have an interest in sex because it makes you...
• Commented on Performing oral sex on my boyfriend makes him feel "intimidated"???
  For a lot of people, there are so many fears, thoughts and feelings wrapped up in oral sex, especially with a new partner. Will I taste bad? Will s/he gag? Is s/he going to spit or swallow? What if I...
• Commented on Gay
  George, we definitely have no prerogative at Good in Bed--we welcome questions and comments about everything and from everyone, and appreciate your input. Our guides aren't meant to be hetero-exclusive; they can all be used whether the reader is having...
• Commented on A virgin at 27, is this weird?
  Is it uncommon? Yes. It is weird? No. I myself was part of the V club into my 20s--I can definitely sympathize with your anxiety. It's up to you whether you tell the first person you have sex with that...
• Commented on Puzzled About G-Spot Vibrators
  Yep, generally they have the vibration because sometimes people use g-spot vibes externally, as well--plus, I think that in the industry there's just an understanding that if it's a vibrator, it should vibrate, even if it doesn't make much sense...
• Commented on Looking for a Video Recommendation
  Also, this isn't a video recommendation, but our e-book on going down on a man is amazing!...
• Commented on Kissing Help
  There are so many things you can do to spice it up as far as kissing goes! You can nibble his lip, use your tongue (don't go overboard here--even if you just barely put your tongue to your bottom lip,...
• Commented on CUM
  You could also try using a little bit of flavored lube right at the beginning....
• Commented on Looking for recommendations for a pulsing vibrator
  JimmyJane is by far one of the most reliable companies--several of their vibes have replaceable motors so you can have 'em forever, and the whole Form line has tons of different settings for intensity of vibration as well as different...
• Commented on PE and Uncircumcision
  Yep, it adds to sensitivity--as you said, there isn't much direct contact with the head of your penis during daily activities, so it's going to be more sensitive than the head of your circumcised brethren. Not being circumcised has a...
• Commented on loss of libido
  It's great that you have an upcoming appointment to talk to your doc--they are well aware that a common side effect to these meds is a loss of libido, so (as Dr. Castellanos said above) there is a range of...
• Commented on Does This Ever Really Work to Get More Sex?
  Might as well try it... right? :)...
• Commented on Want Vibrator Recommendation, Part 2
  I've tried both Lelo and WeVibe brands, and was much more satisfied with Lelo--that being said, I haven't tried either of these specific models, but I found that the WeVibe II was too cumbersome and had too little power, and...
• Commented on CUM
  Does your problem have to do with swallowing only, or with the whole act of blowjobs? Check out our e-book on going down on dudes, which does have a bit about getting over the gagging and whatnot. Either way, let...