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• Posted What Are Your Attitudes About Valentine's Day? to Sex Trends
  It's Valentine's Day - the day of pink and red explosions of chocolates, roses, and teddy bears everywhere you look. To some, this is an exciting time; a holiday looked forward to with anticipation. To others, this is a...
• Posted Learning From Lack of Orgasm to Sex Trends
  I've always kept track of all of the questions that readers, students, and acquaintances ask me related to sexuality and relationships. This morning, I was reading through some of the questions, and noticed a theme of orgasm throughout. Most of...
• Commented on about pregnancy
  I second Dr. Kerner's response above. However, if you still want to engage in that form of sex play, use a condom or release the sperm elsewhere so that you can minimize the chance of the sperm entering the vagina....
• Commented on Herpes
  I think that WD is right on here. This isn't even really about Herpes at this stage and is more about why she is putting a stop to your sex life. There are plenty of couples where one member has...
• Commented on My Girlfriend's Anorgasmia
  You say that you've "eaten her out correctly" - but unfortunately, there is no "correct" way to give oral sex. Every woman is different and preferences vary widely. Ask her what she likes...keep the lines of communication open during sex....
• Commented on after sex
  There shouldn't be anything about this that will hurt you, aside from the pain that you (or is it her, like WD asked?) experience. So, if you don't find the pain is severe or you're fine with feeling that moment...
• Commented on I Think My Wife Doesn't Find Me Sexually Attractive
  I do think it is incredibly important for the two of you to talk about what is going on. Something isn't right in your relationship if this is abnormal and you're left feeling neglected. If you could talk to her...
• Commented on Soreness after Sex
  I'd be interested to know where the pain is located? Is the pain at the vaginal opening? On the upper inner thighs? The cervix? Knowing where the pain is may help determine what it might be. Do you use lubricant?...
• Commented on physical attraction
  Does he know you don't find him physically attractive anymore? I don't necessarily think it will help to let him know, unfortunately. And if you do make comments about it to him, try to sprinkle them in with positive things...
• Commented on How to keep a woman from thrusting away during orgasm
  Although you are looking for advice about how to maintain a position, I'm going to offer something a little different. Once a woman experiences orgasm, the clitoris can be incredibly sensitive. Women vary a lot from one another in terms...
• Commented on ejaculation during intercourse
  Since you can ejaculate during masturbation, I would like to eliminate any sort of physical causes of this, but I'm not entirely satisfied with that, so I would suggest you visit an MD in your area who has experience in...
• Commented on crying in relationship--why?
  If you hadn't added the last sentence about him leaving the country, I would have been at a bit of a loss as to why you were crying other than to chalk it up to emotions related to being in...
• Posted Relationship Boredom to The Sex Doctors are In!
  Good in Bed Research recently conducted a survey to examine relationship boredom, and according to 3,341 readers in committed relationships, half reported either being bored or on the brink of boredom in their relationships. Further, 24 percent of people reported...
• Posted Infidelity & Monogamy: What's Going On? to Sex Trends
  Arnold. Ashton. Anthony.  When it comes to the ABCs of infidelity, one thing is certain: It's only a matter of days - maybe minutes - before another extramarital scandal rocks the headlines. With brand new stories of celebrity and political...
• Commented on Problems with Sexual Desire/Arousal
  From what I can tell based on the information you've provided here, what your experiencing is a perfectly natural reaction to the circumstance you are currently in. You're stressed, buying a house, taking birth control, recently moved, tough time at...
• Commented on The Bro Code
  This is tricky. When it comes to my friends, I always try to put myself in their shoes and think about how I might feel if I were in their position and found out. If you are okay with that...
• Commented on Toys for Practicing cunnilingus w/o partner
  I'm certainly not here to give you a strange look - good for you for wanting to brush up on technique for your partner before "the big day". However, good cunnilingus can be had without any sort of speech therapy....
• Commented on Hand jobs
  A hand job is very safe. One of the safest, actually. However, there is bodily contact since her hands are touching your penis...so she could conceivable get something from you if she were to get semen on her hands and...
• Posted Who Believes in Soulmates Anymore, Anyway? to Sex Trends
  In a world of technological advance where we have as much access to people across the world as we do across the coffee shop, where romantic options are presented to us online as often as they are in person, it...
• Commented on mirena and sex
  I suppose the strings from Mirena "can" get caught around the piercings, but it is doubtful. It really depends on how short the strings are cut. Your medical provider can cut those strings short to ensure that this won't happen,...
• Commented on Cunnilingus and Pain
  I haven't ever heard of the natural chemicals of the mouth having a painful reaction with the natural chemicals of the vulva. Paul may be right in making sure that you don't have too many whiskers - but for some...
• Commented on Anxious Girlfriend
  Hmmm, it sounds like something has happened in her past that is creating this type of reaction. How long is "awhile" that you've been together? Would you be comfortable talking to her about where these reactions are coming from? You'd...
• Commented on no hope
  I'd be interested to know what your approach is when talking to women you are interested in? Where do you tend to meet women? Based on the limited information you've provided, it sounds like you do have the potential to...
• Commented on feeling betrayed about no cunnilingus - a deal breaker?
  Really great advice from 'wantsmore'. It is super important for you to evaluate how important this is to you. It would also be good to talk to him about it outside of the context of sex - maybe it is...
• Commented on low to no sex drive, can't get wet
  Ian raises some really great questions here, and once you let us know the answers to those questions, we can likely help you a lot more. There could be a medical issue going on, like Ian suggested (hormonal issue, testosterone,...
• Commented on HPV and Oral
  Oral sex is always safer with condoms. It is certainly possible to transfer a genital wart from you to a partner (or vice versa) through oral sex. If it makes you feel more comfortable, why not use the protection? The...
• Posted Attitudes Toward Monogamy: Findings From Our Latest Survey to Sex Trends
  Our most recent Good in Bed Survey examined attitudes toward monogamy. I was really excited to create this survey and even more excited to analyze the data on a topic so relevant and interesting. You may recall, in the summer...
• Commented on between a rock and hard place
  Hmmm...good ol' technology! This is a tough situation you are in. Do you ever use his computer? Or would there ever be a time that you could ask him to borrow your computer to look something up? If so, you...
• Commented on Too much of a good thing?
  Others may disagree with me on this, but I think that as long as masturbation isn't interfering with your personal relationships (is your wife bothered by your masturbation?) or your general functioning, I don't think you can masturbate too much....
• Commented on Question About Boyfriend's Erection
  That is absolutely a legitimate reason for him to lose his erection. The brain is incredibly connected to sexual response, and if his mind is elsewhere, his penis will react to being elsewhere. It very likely doesn't have anything to...