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• Commented on Abstinence for Non-Virgins
  How far will he go with "outercourse" -- meaning pleasuring you and letting himself be pleasured without actual intercourse? That can be just as fun/effective (if not more) as far as satisfaction, encouraging intimacy and conversation......
• Commented on How can you Produce more......
  Malibu - Actually moist does not equal excited. You can be excited but in the latter half of your cycle and not get as "wet" as the first. Or the other way around. A good way to get "moister" is...
• Commented on How can you Produce more......
  Malibu - Actually moist does not equal excited. You can be excited but in the latter half of your cycle and not get as "wet" as the first. Or the other way around. A good way to get "moister" is...
• Commented on Don't Know What To Do
  While family of origin dynamics can certainly affect your style of relating, they don't change whether you are gay or straight (who you are sexually attracted to). You have two issues here: understanding and recovering from childhood/young adult family issues,...
• Commented on Not Interested But Want to Be
  Monica, I think you have a bigger problem here than just the snoring, but I do have to tell you that earplugs (the super duper ones) helped me a lot. I can't hear my alarm now, but at least I...
• Commented on Want Vibrator Recommendation, Part 2
  If you are new to vibrators, I'd opt for the Lelo Siri since you can get more creative with it (stimulate him as well). Both are not inexpensive, so if you have a way to get to a store to...
• Commented on Want to Feel Wanted
  You have gotten a lot of feedback but I wanted to get back to a topic that was touched upon at the beginning. It is very possible that your husband is dealing with depression. Because of the pay, stress and...
• Commented on Lasting long in bed or Having short relationships
  You may find that initially you have more sex, but then it evens out to a more average number. Please remember that good sex for her may be orgasming without your penis, meaning you can bring her to orgasm with...
• Commented on Fulfilling Fantasies
  If your marrraige is fragile, this is not the time to be adding another person into the mix or agreeing to let him have a one night stand. You are not responsible for agreeing to things you aren't comfortable because...
• Commented on Ball of Confusion 2
  You have a lot of really hard things going on, you really need some support to get them all weeded out (although they are interrelated). First of all, your husband is having an ongoing affair with a friend of yours,...
• Commented on An open letter to my husband
  Talk to us first, then write him a letter! It is true that men don't sense urgency in relationships at the same rate women do. Maybe the having your concerns in front of him in black and white can help...
• Commented on Husband trying to have gay affair
  If you are content living as roommates where he has sex with others and not with you then you are free to have that relationship--plenty of people do (as long as it is not hurting your self esteem). Fact is...
• Commented on Sexually Stagnant Marriage (Young Couple)
  My experience with my patients is that oral contraceptives can really kill their libido as well (and that there are things that can nudge it up as well). Have you talked about how she feels about her body after two...
• Commented on how do you give the most amazing kisses?
  See what he does with his tongue and do the same thing back! As Dr. Castellanos said, softening your jaw and lips is key. Also don't be afraid to venture away from the lips and go to the neck and...
• Commented on Torn
  Ok, lets be clear: he lied to you (=didn't disclose) and your communication was so bad that you never addressed sex. And honestly, the distance and new love interest is probably making him look more attractive (it's just human nature)....
• Commented on Vulvitis
  As couples try more positions or more energetic sex, inflammation of the vulva is something that I am hearing about more often now. Definitely see your doctor to make sure it's not STD related, then take care of your vulva...
• Commented on Single Women and Married Women
  One theory is that long term relationships (like marriage) give you security and comfort, but in doing that lose the spontaneity and desire of shorter term relationships (like dating). The goal then is to be able to keep both feelings...
• Commented on Rekindling with an Ex
  I agree with Kristen that being straightforward about why you are contacting her is important, while leaving some room for romance. She's going to probably want to feel wooed regardless of what your more practical intellectual exchange is beforehand. It...
• Commented on Penis Size
  I agree with Firefighter, it's skill that matters. Bigger can also limit you as OhioGirl points out below. If you are are set on being bigger, you can see it something like the Real Feel Extension from Pure Romance works...
• Commented on Open Marriage
  Cajun, note that she might be open to your having sex with others (with rules) or bringing a third into the bedroom, the "dating" may be the part of your request that makes her bristle. Dating would infer courting and...
• Commented on Cougar Sex for Young Men
  Tsk tsk tsk! Now, now "No one you know," this is not a hook up site but a discussion forum (where you have made several insightful comments I note). If you are interested in MILFs there are websites for that...
• Commented on Abstaining During Marriage
  Go to couples counseling ASAP to talk about your career change and why he is angry. You don't want this affecting your great sex life -- frankly, the two are separate and should be kept that way! He is going...
• Commented on Men and Porn: When does pleasure become a problem?
  Justin, Good points, thanks for commenting :)...
• Commented on Honesty About One's Self
  Trying to understand the "why" of things is less important than the present, which is that it sounds like he is gay, or perhaps bi (if he is attracted to women as well and able to have good sex with...
• Commented on S&M?
  S & M is not as much about sex (if at all) as it is about a powerplay. Make sure you do a lot of reading and understand it well if you are going to be joining in. And I...
• Commented on How to Heal a Broken Heart?
  I am not sure anyone will take his place entirely, however when you do make other connections (platonic or intimate friends) and find yourself corresponding in the daily way that you did with him--you'll feel better. Write a mantra that...
• Commented on Oral Sex Issue
  I can bet she knows that you are ashamed the next day, so bringing it up won't be a surprise to her. Your goal is just to clear the air I think, so you might just start with the general...
• Commented on Sexless marriage, infidelity, and premature ejaculation
  Excellent response Ardego. Bravo!...
• Commented on Love and Birth Control
  I agree with Madeliene, this is not about hormones or stress, this is about deception and lies. If she "liked her life the way it was" there is a possibility of you getting back together, however the reasons why may...
• Commented on Therapy for a Therapist?
  I wonder if you have to wait for her, perhaps starting therapy first then inviting her to come along may help. Her seeing that you are serious about it may nudge her in the right direction. Make sure you are...