Kate McCombs, MPH

  • Commented on 33 year old male and always horny/thinking about sex!
    Can you think of anything that's changed in the last year for you? Has anything changed with your health? At your last physical, were there any changes from previous years? Have there been changes in your stress levels? Living conditions?...
  • Commented on Watching spouse
    The first thing to talk about with you wife is would this be a sexy and appealing thing to *her*. Have you talked about fantasies with her in the past? Has she shared fantasies with you? Find out if she...
  • Commented on Male erection
    I can imagine that learning all of this about him might be quite confronting. It sounds like it's taken a lot of the joy out of sex for you. While there's nothing inherently wrong with these sexual interests of his,...
  • Commented on Oral sex
    We have a whole e-book on this that might interest you: http://www.goodinbed.com/ebooks/2010/04/orally-pleasuring-a-man-about/index.php I hope this is helpful to you. Good luck and have fun!...
  • Commented on Sex life
    I don't think I understand your question. Can you phrase it a different way? If you're having problems with erections, this mini-guide may be helpful. http://www.goodinbed.com/miniguides/2010/01/erectile-problems-and-erectile-dysfunction-ed.php...
  • Commented on Thrusting Techniques
    We have a number of guides to help you improve your technique regardless of your size. You can check out the selection here: http://www.goodinbed.com/ebooks/...
  • Commented on I can't make him come during oral
    First of all, when he says that what you are doing is good for him, trust him. A blow job isn't just about the orgasm - it can feel really good to receive the stimulation even if you don't come....
  • Commented on Frustrated in bed
    Yes, I'd recommend being straightforward with her and reassuring that your challenges with your erection aren't about your desire for her. Fortunately, there are heaps of things you can do with her sexually that don't require your erection (fingering, oral...
  • Commented on How I describe my urge to my bed partner?
    You say you want to talk to him about your desires, but have you and he spoken about your sexual needs yet? While I think he should be more generous with pleasuring you independently of you bringing it up, he...
  • Commented on Should I stay?
    It sounds like it's possible to work out, but likely something that will only get better with a mutual commitment from both of you to proactively work on it. Sex therapy may be something to consider. If that interests you,...
  • Commented on He is too unfit for sex...
    I get that he has some fitness issues that affect some aspects of his performance, but what sounds like a much bigger deal breaker is his lack of willingness to pleasure you. Going down on you doesn't require aerobic fitness...
  • Commented on No sex life
    I can imagine that this situation must be extremely frustrating for you. It sounds like your relationship has had some very unfortunate timing. It's very normal for people to not want much sex when they are going through grief. I...
  • Commented on Does size matter?
    Anxiety can do funny things to your brain as you well know. It can make you worry about things that aren't actually threatening or worrisome. Your penis size is a great example. The average penis size is about 5.5 inches...
  • Commented on Oral Sex Issue
    Watching porn is certainly something you could try if she'd also be into that. That might help if it's an arousal issue. If it's a physical sensation issue, that's unlikely to make much of a difference. But if it'd be...
  • Commented on Oral sex
    I hope I'm understanding your question correctly - why did she previously find giving oral sex unarousing, but now finds it to be a turn-on? This can happen for a number of reasons. Each person is different and sex with...
  • Commented on wet sex
    I'd highly recommend the Liberator Throw. It's a waterproof sex blanket you can lay down on any surface, then throw in the wash when you're done. It feels great too. One side is all silky and the other is velvety....
  • Commented on Reasons why I think my partner is bi (but won't admit it)
    It sounds like you have some concerns about the trust and honesty in your relationship. I can see why. I'm wondering what made you search for him on the dating sites to begin with? Has there been some reasons for...
  • Commented on Ejaculate Fetish? Curious about Meaning
    It sounds like it's been a gratifying experience for you. I'm glad to hear it's been a source of enjoyment for you and your partners! As with many things about the way people operate sexually, there's a tremendous amount of...
  • Commented on Eating my own cum
    It's entirely up to you whether you share this with your girlfriend. If this is an activity you'd like to do in her presence at some point, I'd say it would be good to share it with her. But if...
  • Commented on HELP Hes soo bad in bed!! F-U-C-K-I-N-G S.O.S-!!!!!
    Are you committed to staying in the relationship, or are you looking for permission to leave it? If you're planning to stay, it sounds like the two of you would need a great deal of conversations about your sexual needs...
  • Commented on I've never received oral sex. Maybe some advice?
    The fact that it took you 15 years to ask for oral sex from your wife suggests that the sexual communication in your relationship could use some upgrading. I'm glad you finally got the courage to ask and I'm sorry...
  • Commented on Boyfriend checking out other things..
    I wonder if it's truly insecurity or if it's actually just variety he's seeking. Many people also don't want to engage in their kinkier fantasies with their primary partner. Lots of people want variety in their fantasy life, but it...
  • Commented on Frigid liar . . .
    I responded to your earlier question with some similar advice: I think you'd get a lot out of some sessions with a qualified sex therapist. They could help you unpack the psychological factors that have contributed to the physical experiences...
  • Commented on losing interest
    I'd highly recommend seeking some therapy from a qualified sex therapist. They could help you and your partner unpack the layers of what's going on with your respective sexual challenges and help you communicate/rebuild trust. You can find one near...
  • Commented on Male sex drive
    It sounds like his sex drive is on the high end of normal, but certainly not atypical. But whether or not it's normal doesn't sound like the issue - you and he want different amounts of sex and want different...
  • Commented on Turned on by boyfriend with other women...
    It is very common for people to have desires change and emerge over time. Desires and fantasies are not static - they can show up out of nowhere like the one you describe. It doesn't mean you're crazy. The thing...
  • Commented on I don't want to degrade myself anymore
    It's quite common for people to find things a turn on that they don't want to do in real life, but it sounds like you're particularly distressed by these fantasies. It sounds like you're wanting more control and choice about...
  • Commented on Casual sex in university
    Thanks for your question. It sounds like you're on the right track for having some positive casual sex encounters. While I think it's awesome that you're wanting to avoid being creepy and forceful, being direct can be great. Saying what...
  • Commented on Female orgasm an refusal of cunnilingus
    You should never insist on doing anything to her sexually. If she doesn't like cunnilingus, respect her preferences. Instead, ask her what she DOES want and do those things....
  • Commented on Sex drive
    Career problems and the stress that can come with them can certainly affect sex drive. Many people experience sexual challenges after facing career-related stress. My advice would be to find some ways to healthily manage your stress, like mindfulness meditation,...
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