Kate McCombs, MPH

  • Commented on Wife not aroused
    There are MANY people who enjoy watching porn and it has nothing to do with how attracted they are to their partner. If your wife says she is attracted to you, believe her. Don't interpret that her interest in porn...
  • Commented on penis foreskin....
    From how you've described it, that sounds like a normal foreskin to me. Has this changed from how your foreskin used to be? If something has changed with your foreskin, I'd recommend seeing a doctor. But it's perfectly normal for...
  • Commented on Oral after intercourse
    I'm sure there are many women who feel the same way you do. I'm curious, why do you feel this is something you *have* to get over? I can offer some suggestions for how to do so, but I also...
  • Commented on Lifecycles of Boobs?
    As you've well noted, breasts come in all shapes in sizes at all different ages. While breasts have a tendency to sag more with age because of a loss of collagen and a decrease in estrogen, they can have a...
  • Commented on Why must it be taboo?
    I think the desire to explore taboo edges is incredibly common and normal. Where those edges sit for people is what varies. What concerns me most is why you had access to your boyfriend's browser history. Did you have his...
  • Commented on How to develop interest for sex with wife
    I can see why you are distressed by this. Has this happened in previous relationships? Have you lost attraction to your partner, but found all other women attractive? Is it possible that you're just not attracted to your wife? Did...
  • Commented on He loves me too much to have sex with me?
    I'm so pleased to hear that it sounds like you are both communicating so openly about the challenges you're facing, both in your relationship and the ones that he's facing with his past. It sounds like he needs to commit...
  • Commented on Wife lying about porn, but closed off - what to do?
    It sounds like there are some deep trust issues in your marriage that are deeply affecting both your sex life and your honesty with one another. My advice would be to see a sex therapist. Since these issues have been...
  • Commented on Feeling new discomfort with toys
    Couple of questions for you. 1. Are you using enough lubricant? If so, is it possible that the lubricant you're using contains ingredients that you are sensitive to? For example, many people have a reaction to glycerin or parabens which...
  • Commented on Can't even fit two fingers into my vagina?
    If you are sufficiently turned on, it probably shouldn't hurt as long as there is enough lubrication. I would go see your OB/GYN and see what's going on. They should be able to give you some guidance. One other thought:...
  • Commented on Erection and foreplay
    Yes, it's likely that this is just a shift that comes with age. I wouldn't stress about it too much unless you notice other changes in your penis too. It sounds normal to me....
  • Commented on Sex toy shopping
    While nothing is guaranteed, I have a few suggestions. The We Vibe Tango (small but powerful) http://we-vibe.com/tango The Lelo Mona (expensive, but worth it) https://www.lelo.com/mona-2 The Magic Wand (super powerful, when other vibrators fail) http://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/GV13516/magic-wand/magic-wand-rechargeable?lref=Srch|magic%2Bwand|a|1|c|0|-relevance|search_page|0 Good luck!...
  • Commented on Husband refuses to have sex
    What a challenging situation. I can see why you are frustrated. Have you and your husband ever spoken about a consensual non monogamy situation? Like an open marriage? Where you sleep with other men, but with his consent? I agree...
  • Commented on Wife not really interested
    I don't think it's unreasonable for you to want more, but it's also not unreasonable for your wife to not want to do more. It might just be that you're incompatible in how adventurous you are sexually. Or you both...
  • Commented on Trouble orgasming
    I can see why you would be frustrated. Is his frustration putting undo pressure on you? If so, I'd make it clear that his expression of frustration is compounding the pressure you feel. Beyond that, I'd recommend enjoying the sex...
  • Commented on Trouble orgasming
    I'm curious what may have happened in your life recently that may be contributing to this block. Uncovering that might help in getting you to orgasm in the way you'd like again. Some thoughts: Have you had any major life...
  • Commented on FiancĂ© doesn't like to orgasm.
    Puns are excellent! I wholeheartedly approve of those, especially the ones about sex. Glad to hear she is enjoying all the sex with you and that it's not pressure-ful. Best of luck with everything, Kate...
  • Commented on Threesome help
    Hi there! Thanks for your question. My suggestion is to bring up the idea of threesomes more generally with her before you ask her directly. Do you talk about sex with this friend? Is she attracted to both men and...
  • Commented on Wife can't orgasm
    The overwhelming majority of women cannot orgasm through vaginal sex alone. There's nothing wrong with your wife. 70-80% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. I'm glad to hear you both have found ways of incorporating clitoral...
  • Commented on Oral Sex
    It is possible to contract some sexual transmissible infections (STIs) through oral sex. The risk is lower than for vaginal or anal sex, but there is some risk of transmission. If you or your wife have have previous partners with...
  • Commented on Trouble ejaculating during mastrubation
    Generally, people prefer to have some sort of lubrication when they masturbate....
  • Commented on FiancĂ© doesn't like to orgasm.
    I think one of the biggest things you can do to make her feel at ease is to stop pressuring her to have an orgasm with you. Here are my main questions: Is it a problem TO HER that she...
  • Commented on Lidokain sprey
    It's likely that her mouth and lips would get numb. Make sure she knows that you've used the numbing spray before she gives you a blow job so she can choose whether or not she's want that kind of numbing...
  • Commented on Cant last long enough.
    It sounds like there may be some larger issues at play. One other thing you may want to consider is seeing a sex therapist. If that interests you, you can find one here: https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory...
  • Commented on Trouble ejaculating during mastrubation
    If you can pee while you're masturbating, I wonder if you are not sufficiently aroused. Normally if you are turned on enough to ejaculate, you shouldn't be able to pee. Do you feel aroused enough when you are masturbating, or...
  • Commented on How to stop ejaculating too fast during a blowjob?
    I'm curious what it is about blowjobs that present for you that isn't there for sex. Is it that you have more control of how much stimulation you're getting when you're having penis-in-vagina sex? Also, is it less pleasurable to...
  • Commented on Cant last long enough.
    Thank you for your question. I have a couple of thoughts for you. First, would it be possible for you to make her cum from an activity that didn't involve your penis? Like with your tongue, fingers, or a toy?...
  • Commented on Painfully stubborn lover will not engage in foreplay
    This doesn't sound like a "stubborn" lover. This sounds like an unkind, inconsiderate lover who does not respect your clearly-articulated boundaries. That is not something that can be fixed. You've done all you can. You clearly communicated your needs and...
  • Commented on Physical abuse during sex
    I'm so sorry this happened to you. I can understand why you wouldn't have desire or sex drive toward him after that happened. It's huge violation of trust. Here's a list of resources that may help you as you recover....
  • Commented on Premature ejeculation and orgasm without ejeculation for men
    I'm not familiar with any sites specifically, but I know a number of folks have found the book "The Multi Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia to be helpful. It's got quite a New Age bent, which you may or may...
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