shelley

  • Commented on Cock Rings
    My husband wears one on occasion and likes it. Just don't leave it on too long (I think 20 minutes is the max) because of scar tissue risks....
  • Commented on What makes you feel sexual?
    Self esteem and confidence are huge factors for me. These are derived from the relationship itself such as how well we are getting along and how connected we are. Self confidence is also a product of how I feel about...
  • Commented on ED or NOT
    I'm not an expert but it seems like you should talk to her and explain that your attraction to her is getting you over excited. Do something for her, like oral, without expectations of sex for you. I think focusing...
  • Commented on Sex: how much does it really matter?
    In my marriage, it matters alot. There have been periods earlier in our relationship where work demands and stress put our love life on the back burner. We were both disconnected, edgy, and started to spend less time together. Not...
  • Commented on Do we need sex, or do we just want sex?
    I think its a basic human need. A while back, I traveled frequently with my job which means my husband was not with me. I was out of sorts and felt unbalanced due to the lack of sex. To answer...
  • Commented on Emotional Affair...
    I think being honest is the best way to remedy this. You need to tell this person that you are getting too involved and need a break from communications in order to refocus on other relationships. While fantasies may be...
  • Commented on Sex addiction: when is too much of a good thing too much?
    When it interferes with your other life activities like work and social relationships on a continuous basis....
  • Commented on confused
    You mentioned on another topic that you are no longer attracted to your wife and here you say you had a relationship with your secretary. I think you need to come clean with your wife, decide what you really want,...
  • Commented on Our Cheating Hearts
    For me personally, I demand fidelity and would not be in a relationship if that was compromised. I think people in general do cut bait too soon and give up without a true effort too often. I wonder if also,...
  • Commented on Never ending 'Plateau' phase
    I second the WeVibe. It's great. I understand your "fitting" concerns but it really does fit, truly. It's also a good toy for other things. My husband enjoys oral with it wrapped around the shaft area. As for "woman on...
  • Commented on Never ending 'Plateau' phase
    How about asking a partner use a vibrator on you so they learn how you like to be touched?...
  • Commented on When Fantasies Become Reality
    yes and no. its good to be open and flexible but not to the point of hindering self pleasure because you're too far out of your comfort zone. in our home, we try new things but if one of us...
  • Commented on Husband has trouble getting hard.
    I'm not an expert but my guess would be more focused on the mental rather than the physical. Stress or fatigue can really impact your sex life. How are things in that area? How is his job, family, home responsibilities,...
  • Commented on Sex after Baby
    For me, I was hesitant after the birth of my first child because I was embarrassed about the weight gained during the pregnancy. We waited 8 weeks, longer than needed. The extra wait time only built up my anxiety. After...
  • Commented on High Sex Drive Strange?
    Not at all! I also have a strong sex drive. Orgasms are a great way for me to relax and escape from the trials of the day. I have small children and a demanding job, sex is my mini-vacation. If...
  • Commented on High Sexual Libido ( For a woman! )
    I'm with you! I also have a high libido but I have found that certain life changes increase it even more. I think the recently moving in together and having easy access to him is a novelty that has you...
  • Commented on Sexless marriage, infidelity, and premature ejaculation
    I'm really sorry. I'm sad for you that she won't help you work through the PE. I am not at all an expert so I have no clue what else to day other than I'm really sorry. I do have...
  • Commented on Maintaining sexual desire for the long-run
    By staying connected and trying to keep some mystery and romance in the relationship. My husband and I have been together since my junior year of high school, so 15 years. We still can't keep our hands off eachother. We...
  • Commented on Foreplay tips, tricks and ideas?
    Haha! Wouldn't that be the toast of the night?!?!...
  • Commented on Book to Improve Sex Life
    If you do send a sex toy, might I suggest the Hitachi Magic Wand? It's really great and if she doesn't end up enjoying it for it's vibrator option for some reason, it's actually a decent body massager....
  • Commented on How to deal with sexual incompatibility
    I'm really grateful that my husband and I are both "comfort-creatures" and have a similar threshold for new things or experiences. I think there is something very comforting about a predictable but still wonderful path. At times, we will try...
  • Commented on Book to Improve Sex Life
    Since reading "Love in the Time of Colic" and "Passionita" I can say my husband is entirely thrilled with my new outlook on sex and sense of adventure and willingness to try new things. I am currently reading "Orgasms...." by...
  • Commented on Foreplay tips, tricks and ideas?
    That's a good point that my unrealistic is different than others. I have two young children so the ideas like "cook while naked" won't really work with kids around. Thanks for the link to your fellatio guide, I will pick...
  • Posted Foreplay tips, tricks and ideas? to The Good in Bed Forums
    I know foreplay is discussed frequently here so it got me thinking that I could maybe try some new things to spice things up. So, I went to the book store and found several "guides" that seemed unrealistic and pretty...
  • Commented on All About the Female Orgasm
    I don't actively fake it and would not fake it for my husband's sake because I know he can get the job done; however, there has been some misunderstandings in the past. Sometimes, when I began to moan, breathe heavy...
  • Commented on Bored in the Bedroom
    This is a great topic! I change things up by taking the lead at times. My husband goes wild. We also bring in new toys, lingerie, or try something new all together. I think making an effort not to do...
  • Commented on What do you think of the concept of chore-play?
    Chore-play is absolutely important in my home. When my husband plays with the kids or cleans the home, makes me feel that he is fully engaged and committed to the life we built together. It also helps relieve my stress...
  • Commented on Long time to finish?
    I know he isn't into masterbating or porn (really) but I think you may be onto something conerning the body being physically aroused but not the mind. I was thinking back on the times where it just took so long...
  • Posted Long time to finish? to The Good in Bed Forums
    My husband and I have been having much more sex these past few months. It's great but I am starting to notice that it is taking him a really long time to ejaculate. I certainly don't mind but the time...
  • Commented on What do you consider great foreplay?
    I think great foreplay (for me at least) needs to build to where I am watching the clock for the magic hour when I can put the kids to bed....
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