Queer Eye for Sex

an LGBTQ Perspective with Margie Nichols

Margie Nichols Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

is a licensed psychologist and Diplomate in sex therapy. She is the founder of IPG Counseling (the Institute for Personal Growth). Dr. Nichols is an internationally published author and speaker in the area of sexual minorities. She has been an invited participant in symposiums at the Kinsey Institute, resulting in books published by Oxford University Press. Among her other work is chapters in the groundbreaking book Lesbian Psychologies, and a chapter on sexual minorities in the leading textbook in the sex therapy field, Principles and Practices of Sex Therapy, edited by Sandra Leiblum. She received her Ph.D. from Columbia University, and completed her post-doctoral sex therapy certification at Robert Wood Johnson Medical School.

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The DSM and NIMH: Why Insel Got It Right, and What It Means for Sexology

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

In a move that is causing consternation among psychiatrists, Thomas Insel, Director of the National Institutes of Mental Health, announced that NIMH will be 're-orienting its research away from DSM categories.' Insel called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the Bible of psychiatry, nothing more than a dictionary at best. He...

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What We Can All Learn from Gay Couples

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

By now most people have heard about John Gottman's research comparing gay and straight couples, publicized a few years back. Gottman, a respected psychologist and researcher, did a study of gay relationships that revealed that for the most part same and mixed sex couples had similar similar levels of relationship...

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Sex Tips from the Leather World, Part Two

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

First, let me say a little more about decoupling sex and love. Because, imho, the source of many of our sexual difficulties is our sloppy sentimentality about sex and love. The reason we personalize our partner's sexual behavior so much is that we are viewing sexuality through lenses distorted by...

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Sex Tips for Vanilla Couples from the Leather World, Part One

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

I hate these kinds of articles- my eyes glaze over when I see them- and so this is the first time I've written one. But I think my advice might be slightly different from what you've have heard before. For nearly thirty years, my two main professional specialties have been...

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Fifty Shades of Facts

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

There's good news and bad news, imo, about the success of 'Fifty Shades of Grey.' The good news is that women's erotic life is getting a boost.....as in 'validated'......as is women's interest in kinky fantasy sex.  The bad news:  Christian Grey's kinky predilictions are attributed to childhood abuse, thereby reinforcing...

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Diapers, Dads, Testosterone and the Mommy Culture

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

Two articles about gender differences and childcare have been on my mind lately.  The first is an article by Tara Parker-Pope published early in 2012 in the Times Sunday Magazine.  She reports on research showing the predictable gender differences in child-care activities, even when both parents work, but also showing that...

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How to Raise a Child Who is Different

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

This is another blog about parenting, but from a different perspective.  A while ago I wrote about how parenting styles don't matter. This is about something that does. We know through research that kids who are 'different' can be shielded from the effects of a judgmental world through the efforts...

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Ten Things You Need to Know About Gender Nonconforming and Transgender Youth

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

IPG, the Institute for Personal Growth, just initiated  supportive counseling groups for gender variant and transgender youth, and for their parents.  We're realizing that most people are woefully misinformed about these kids, so we came up with a list of facts that we hope will counteract the stereotypes and falsehoods:...

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The Trans Explosion - What's Happening?

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

Many people are puzzled and confused by what seems to an explosion of people who identify as transgender, genderqueer, gender fluid, or something else that is not 'male' or 'female.' Even to LGB folk,  the changes seem to have occurred almost overnight. So let's start our exploration of trans issues...

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How to Talk About Sex. I Mean REALLY Talk About Sex

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

I'm frustrated by hearing sex experts tell people to 'communicate better' about sex.  I'm impatient with advice to 'tell your partner what you want.'  For one thing, many people don't know what they want.  Even those who can be pretty specific tend to know only what they want OUT OF THE...

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Sex and the Older (Bisexual) Lesbian

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

The Journal of Sex Research is one of my favorite professional journals, and a recent issue included a study on sexual identity and sexual behavior in older lesbians, those 51 or older at the time of the survey - Baby Boomer lesbians, born before 1960. Some of the results...

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The DSM 5 and LGBT Rights: Still Crazy After All These Years?

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

Two things recently have made me think about that important piece of LGBT history, the 'de-classification' of homosexuality as a mental illness in 1973.  The first is the news, released this week, that the fifth edition of the 'Bible' of psychiatric illness, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, will be published in...

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Is the LGBT Community 'Recruiting the Young?'

Posted by Margie Nichols, Ph.D.

Recently I saw a special report put out by the Gallup organization on the results of polling done last year.   Gallup asked 120,000 people the following questions: 'Do you, personally, identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender?'  This is the largest number of Americans who have EVER been polled about...

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