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with Ian Kerner

Ian Kerner is a New York Times best-selling author of numerous books including She Comes First, Passionista and The Big Fun Sexy Sex Book amongst others. To read more about Ian's print books, please click here. Ian appears frequently on the TODAY Show and also writes a weekly sex column for CNN. Ian is certified as a sexuality counselor by AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors) and frequently addresses issues that are common to the "American bedroom." He lives with his wife and two sons (and a pit-bull named Jitterbug) in New York City.

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Long Distance Relationships

Posted by Ian Kerner

The end of summer doesn't just mean it's time to buckle down at work or head back to school. For many college students, autumn also signals a disruption in summertime loving, in other words, a return to the dreaded long-distance relationship.But are these types of relationships really so hard? Or,...

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Dads with low Desire

Posted by Ian Kerner

Women may be the ones to physically go through pregnancy and childbirth, but they're not alone in the experience. From phantom pains to "sympathy" weight gain, partners of pregnant women can develop some of the physical symptoms of pregnancy. Now, a recent study suggests that these partners may undergo the same shifts...

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Sex After a Heart Attack

Posted by Ian Kerner

Having a heart attack is often a wake-up call for people to change their lives, whether that means quitting smoking, eating healthier or simply focusing on doing the things they enjoy.But surviving a heart attack can trigger anxiety, too: What if it happens again? And while many men and women...

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Summer Sizzle

Posted by Ian Kerner

Approximately 50% of people admit to being bored in their relationships, according to a Good in Bed survey. Take advantage of the season to add some spice to your sex life, but do it wisely: Not every summertime rendezvous is a smart idea (sex on the beach, I'm looking at...

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A "love-drug" for your relationship?

Posted by Ian Kerner

It's a Saturday night. You get the kids to bed, wash the dishes and plop down on the couch for a marathon of reality TV. Across the room, your partner is engrossed in his or her iPad.Later, you give each other a chaste kiss good night, roll over and go...

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What would you do?

Posted by Ian Kerner

Your buddy's wife decides to "friend" her ex on Facebook. Your local politician gets busted sending pictures of his private parts to his campaign workers. Your sister tells you her boyfriend wants her to watch pornography with him. It's easy to offer your two cents in these situations -- but...

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Gay Couples: out but not about

Posted by Ian Kerner

Between celebratory parades for Pride Month and increased calls for marriage equality, it would seem that, for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered community, things are indeed getting better. But what happens if you're in relationship with a partner who just isn't comfortable being "out" with his or her sexual...

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The truth about sex supplements

Posted by Ian Kerner

Conventional wisdom tells us that natural remedies are simply gentler alternatives to prescription drugs like Viagra and Cialis, right? Not so fast, say experts. Not only are many dietary supplements marketed for erectile dysfunction and other male sexual problems ineffective, they may not even be "natural." In fact, a number...

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The State of the Hookup

Posted by Ian Kerner

For many young adults, college is a rite of passage, filled with experiences ranging from parties to all-night cram sessions to that first serious relationship. Yet romance may be getting short shrift these days, replaced instead with quick "hookups" devoid of any real emotion. That's the argument of a provocative new...

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Does Your Bedroom Door need a Lock?

Posted by Ian Kerner

It's a moment that not all parents have experienced, but that many of us fear: You're enjoying a passionate encounter with your partner, oblivious to the pitter-patter of little feet until it's too late. Have you just scarred your kid for life? Certainly not -- but, depending on your child's...

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Is there such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sex?

Posted by Ian Kerner

How does your sex life measure up? That's the central premise of "The Normal Bar," a new book by Chrisanna Northrup and sociologists Pepper Schwartz and James Witte. Based on the responses of an Internet survey of some 70,000 people, "The Normal Bar" endeavors to ease people's concerns about their...

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Getting Along with the In-Laws

Posted by Ian Kerner

Whether you adore your partner's parents or barely tolerate your in-laws, your rapport with them can have lasting effects on your own romantic relationship. In fact, according to new research, it could even predict your odds of staying together over the long haul. For the study, which will be published...

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Is Body Image a Distraction During Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner

If recent research is any indication, dissatisfaction with your body -- feeling overweight, unattractive or physically unappealing -- could be putting a crimp in your love life. The study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, looked at the way men and women view their bodies during sex, a concept...

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Pathways to Fantasizing

Posted by Ian Kerner

With the book "Fifty Shades of Grey" still flying off the shelves, women are discovering the power of sexual fantasy, some for the first time. According to neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, authors of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts," while men tend to have visually driven fantasies, women prefer to...

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Sex, Money & Happiness

Posted by Ian Kerner

Money might not buy love, but it can allow for a sizzling sex life. About 70% of multimillionaires -- with a mean net worth of a whopping $90 million -- say they enjoy better and more adventurous sex, according to a 2007 survey by Prince & Associates Inc., a marketing...

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The Sex Appeal of Stay-At-Home Dads

Posted by Ian Kerner

According to the most recent U.S. Census, some 2 million men function as the primary caregivers in their families, and that number is substantially on the rise in light of the current "mancession." But what the stay-at-home dad lacks in earning power he may make up for in sexiness....

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Erotic Capital

Posted by Ian Kerner

Madonna's got it. So do George Clooney, Tina Turner and Robert Redford. These celebrities are certainly good-looking, but they also possess what sociologist Catherine Hakim has dubbed "erotic capital" - a term that describes a certain je ne sais quoi that includes, but isn't limited to, sexual attractiveness. Harness your...

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Male Sexual Fluidity

Posted by Ian Kerner

In a new critically-acclaimed off-Broadway play, with a title too controversial for print, a gay man finds himself falling for a woman, which makes him - and his male partner - wonder whether he's "really" gay after all. Can a gay man who is sexually attracted to women still be...

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Two's Company: apps for Couples

Posted by Ian Kerner

There's no doubt that Facebook and other types of social media can be a real threat to even the strongest relationships.  I sometimes advise couples to avoid "friending" each other on social media because it saps a sense of mystery from the relationship. By dinner, you already know that your...

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same-sex relationships: same issues?

Posted by Ian Kerner

Couples of all orientations find themselves struggling with the same issues, from mismatched libidos to sex ruts to infidelity. "The underlying dynamics are identical," says Emily Nagoski, sex educator and author of "A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships." "They may play out differently because of the differences in gender or...

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