On the CBS sitcom "Mike & Molly," the title characters meet at an Overeaters Anonymous support group and embark on a romantic relationship. It's an uncommon look at intimacy between plus-sized partners, played mainly for laughs. But with obesity rates skyrocketing in this country, sex when one or both partners...
"If I hadn't gotten divorced, I never would have had the top five sexual experiences of my life," gushed Tom, a friend of a friend at a recent holiday party. What a turnaround! In 2010, at the same party, Tom* had been in the midst of splitting up with his...
When you hear the words 'heart' and 'sex life' in the same sentence, odds are the speaker is probably talking about love. But your heart - or, more accurately, your cardiovascular system - actually has a lot to do with your ability to perform in the bedroom. This concept was...
Nearly every week I receive an email from at least one woman asking me what she needs to do to have an orgasm during intercourse, or worrying that something may be wrong with her because she can't. Yet I rarely, if ever, receive the same question from men. The simple...
Ladies, how many of you have ever faked it? If so, why? Did you fake it because your orgasm just wasn't going to happen? Or did you do it because his orgasm happened all too quickly? In that case, perhaps you faked your own orgasm to spare his feelings, or...
A recent study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that erectile dysfunction is often an early indicator of poor cardiovascular health. So perhaps it's time to start "sexercising" and get in shape for love. What benefits can those sit-ups have on your bedroom performance besides...
If you have kids or are hoping to get pregnant, you know all too well that trying to conceive is one of the few times when sex isn't just about pleasure for pleasure's sake. In fact, unless you're one of those couples that get pregnant right away, conception sex can...
If you and your partner are expecting, you don't need to put your sex life on hold for the next nine months. In fact, conception and pregnancy can increase your sexual intimacy with your partner, and you may never feel closer. Of course, the hormonal changes of pregnancy can make...
People often lie about their "number" of past sexual partners: Men tend to overestimate, while women generally underestimate. Of course, it's possible that these men and women aren't lying at all, but simply remembering incorrectly, or reaching their number according to their own definition of sex - like the Clintonian...
It's a question that is helping inform research into the purpose of female orgasm (other than simply as a form of pleasure). Investigators want to know whether the female orgasm is an "adaptation" or "byproduct" of evolution. In other words, does the female orgasm, like the male orgasm, have its...
Every woman loves a good massage, right, but how about one that truly results in a happy ending--in this case a deep-tissue orgasm? Like many sexual techniques, this spicy little combo can be delivered in a variety of fashions, but is probably best achieved via a mix of manual and...
To create and sustain healthy intimate relationships, we often need to go back to the original building blocks of our sexual socialization and see how our patterns of sexual behavior took shape. We need to look at how we were modeled - or, in other words, what we learned and...
Over the past month, I've been conducting a "no-porn" experiment with a group of guys. Not that I'm anti-porn; I'd like to think that I take a nuanced perspective. As a sexuality counselor and author, I've written quite a bit in this column about Internet porn - from how it's...
From the dog run to Whole Foods to the Apple Store, you don't have to look far to see single people flirting it up. But when it happens at the playground (where the vast majority of parents are not so single), one tends to want to look away. Once upon...
Before you head back to campus, check your head when it comes to sex and dating: What's your relationship "frame of mind?" Are you content to happily hook-up or are you ready to seriously couple-up? A lot can change over the summer and, in addition to getting ready to hit...
With the threat of a double-dip recession looming, I've been encouraging couples to extend their own personal debt ceilings (so to speak) and start reinvesting in their relationships. All of the economic turbulence of the past few years has resulted in couples seriously cutting back on things like date nights,...
Are you an exhibitionist? Maybe even a little bit of one? Have you ever fooled around in the backseat of a taxi, or gotten it on at your parents' house, or made out in an elevator or stairwell, or enjoyed some great sex amidst the great outdoors? In my experience...
As a sexuality counselor and author, I'm often asked, "What's the strangest thing you've ever dealt with?" I wish I could tell them something really juicy, like naked clowns wrestling in Jell-O, for example, but the truth is that most sexual complaints tend to be rather common: sex ruts, mismatched...
Hey Guys, when it comes to pleasuring a woman, do you know how to mix the perfect cocktail of deliciously satisfying sensations? Sure, you probably have your own classic recipes for creating sexual intoxication, but have you added a dash of A-spot stimulation, or mixed in some deep U-spot contact,...
Is pushing yourself when you're not in the mood an investment in your relationship? You may be bristling at the phrase "charity sex." If you're a woman, perhaps it brings to mind past, award-worthy, faked orgasms. Or maybe it reminds you of that time you bit your tongue and had...