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The State of the Hookup

Posted by Ian Kerner

For many young adults, college is a rite of passage, filled with experiences ranging from parties to all-night cram sessions to that first serious relationship.Yet romance may be getting short shrift these days, replaced instead with quick "hookups" devoid of any real emotion. That's the argument of a provocative new book,...

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Does Your Bedroom Door need a Lock?

Posted by Ian Kerner

It's a moment that not all parents have experienced, but that many of us fear: You're enjoying a passionate encounter with your partner, oblivious to the pitter-patter of little feet until it's too late. Have you just scarred your kid for life? Certainly not -- but, depending on your child's...

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Is there such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sex?

Posted by Ian Kerner

How does your sex life measure up? That's the central premise of "The Normal Bar," a new book by Chrisanna Northrup and sociologists Pepper Schwartz and James Witte. Based on the responses of an Internet survey of some 70,000 people, "The Normal Bar" endeavors to ease people's concerns about their...

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Getting Along with the In-Laws

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Whether you adore your partner's parents or barely tolerate your in-laws, your rapport with them can have lasting effects on your own romantic relationship. In fact, according to new research, it could even predict your odds of staying together over the long haul. For the study, which will be published...

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Is Body Image a Distraction During Sex

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If recent research is any indication, dissatisfaction with your body -- feeling overweight, unattractive or physically unappealing -- could be putting a crimp in your love life. The study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, looked at the way men and women view their bodies during sex, a concept...

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Pathways to Fantasizing

Posted by Ian Kerner

With the book "Fifty Shades of Grey" still flying off the shelves, women are discovering the power of sexual fantasy, some for the first time. According to neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, authors of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts," while men tend to have visually driven fantasies, women prefer to...

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Sex, Money & Happiness

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Money might not buy love, but it can allow for a sizzling sex life. About 70% of multimillionaires -- with a mean net worth of a whopping $90 million -- say they enjoy better and more adventurous sex, according to a 2007 survey by Prince & Associates Inc., a marketing...

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The Sex Appeal of Stay-At-Home Dads

Posted by Ian Kerner

According to the most recent U.S. Census, some 2 million men function as the primary caregivers in their families, and that number is substantially on the rise in light of the current "mancession." But what the stay-at-home dad lacks in earning power he may make up for in sexiness....

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Erotic Capital

Posted by Ian Kerner

Madonna's got it. So do George Clooney, Tina Turner and Robert Redford. These celebrities are certainly good-looking, but they also possess what sociologist Catherine Hakim has dubbed "erotic capital" - a term that describes a certain je ne sais quoi that includes, but isn't limited to, sexual attractiveness. Harness your...

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Male Sexual Fluidity

Posted by Ian Kerner

In a new critically-acclaimed off-Broadway play, with a title too controversial for print, a gay man finds himself falling for a woman, which makes him - and his male partner - wonder whether he's "really" gay after all. Can a gay man who is sexually attracted to women still be...

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Two's Company: apps for Couples

Posted by Ian Kerner

There's no doubt that Facebook and other types of social media can be a real threat to even the strongest relationships.  I sometimes advise couples to avoid "friending" each other on social media because it saps a sense of mystery from the relationship. By dinner, you already know that your...

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same-sex relationships: same issues?

Posted by Ian Kerner

Couples of all orientations find themselves struggling with the same issues, from mismatched libidos to sex ruts to infidelity. "The underlying dynamics are identical," says Emily Nagoski, sex educator and author of "A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships." "They may play out differently because of the differences in gender or...

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The latest in treating Premature Ejaculation (PE)

Posted by Ian Kerner

Given the ease with which the average person can rattle off brand names like "Viagra" and "Cialis," or joke about "four hour erections," it would seem that erectile-dysfunction drugs are just about as common as ibuprofen. We take it for granted, but the little blue pill has drastically changed the...

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Vacation Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner

What is it about getting away that makes a vacation so conducive to getting it on? With millions of Americans on spring break this month, a quick look at the vicissitudes of vacation sex seems in order. Of course you don't need a study (although there has been one) to...

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The Pill and a Woman's Sexual Choice in Men

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A recent study shows that women with lower testosterone levels - typically caused by the use of hormone-based oral contraceptives like the pill - are more attracted to men who also have low testosterone levels. Previous studies have shown that the less testosterone a man has, the less likely he...

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Is sex addiction for real?

Posted by Ian Kerner

Or is it "nothing more than a pop-psychology phenomenon, serving only to demonize sex, enforce moral views of sex and relationships and excuse irresponsible behaviors?" Those are the fighting words of psychologist David Ley, who, in his rousing new book, "The Myth of Sex Addiction," expresses concern over the slippery...

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Sex and Depression

Posted by Ian Kerner

We live in a culture in which use of SSRIs (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), talk therapy, and mental health days have become nearly as common as gym memberships and multi-purpose vitamins. In fact, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that more than 20 million people in the U.S. experience depression....

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Guys, try erotica for a change instead of porn

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"Fifty Shades of Grey" has put the words "bondage erotica" into the mainstream, according to Rachel Kramer Bussel, a writer and editor of more than 40 anthologies of erotica, including "Best Bondage Erotica 2012." "It has shown that you don't have to be a certain type of person to enjoy...

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Moaning During Sex: Why Louder Isn't Always Better

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From "When Harry Met Sally" to "Sex and the City" to your basic porn film, women in the throes of passion aren't just shouting their ecstasy from the rooftops - they're moaning with pleasure. Loudly. But is this just cinematic license, or is there really something to noisy sex? Experts...

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Sexual Smarts

Posted by Ian Kerner

In his new book, "Sexual Intelligence," Marty Klein, Ph.D - a renowned sex therapist with more than 30 years of experience - challenges readers to think about their sex lives as though they suddenly woke up in Russia tomorrow, without any knowledge of the language and only a handful of...

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