Like cell phones and hotel rooms, the Internet is a facilitator of infidelity, rather than a direct cause of it, but it’s increasingly a catalyst for a particularly pernicious strain of cheating: emotional infidelity....
In today’s harried world, many couples find themselves juggling a laundry list of responsibilities (no pun intended). From kids to careers to simply getting enough sleep, it’s all too easy for many couples allow their relationship to fall to the bottom of that to-do list, since there are so many...
For many guys porn is basically a thirty-second spa-day, complete with happy ending: it feels good, relieves stress, and functions as a quick little treat -- kind of like scarfing down a bag of gummy bears in the middle of the day. It doesn't mean we're not interested in...
Forget romantic dinners and a room for two at your favorite weekend spot. It turns out that the key to great sex for women is a clean kitchen--and maybe some help making sure the kids' homework is done. Sexy, huh?...
Jack, a new patient who has been married for eight years with two young sons, rails against Facebook: "Let's see: yesterday my wife: Felt bloated Realized she has nothing to wear Posted yet another adorable photo album of our boys dressed as Jedi warriors. Was missing Michael Jackson and,...
How many bad dates do you need to go on before you find the one? The answer may be as simple as 1, 2, 3. Anyone who's dated knows it's a numbers game. All it takes is one person to set you on the path towards happily ever after--or...
For new dads, is there a male equivalent of PPD (aka postpartum depression)? There isn't much research into the subject, but in talking to other counselors and therapists, I would estimate that rates of paternal depression range up to about 25 percent when there isn't concurrent PPD in the...
If you ever happen to find yourself crossing the Capilano River in North Vancouver, Canada, you'll have two bridges to choose from: The first is definitely not for the faint of heart: A mere five feet wide and 450 feet long, the Capilano Canyon Suspension Bridge is constructed solely...
As our economy goes from boom to bust so too do many relationships. Even in the best of times financial stress can take its toll on a relationship. But now, as we panic about an uncertain future, stressors become terrors, cracks become fissures, and our connections to our partners...
Wondering if he's "the one"? Forget love at first sight and focus on "love at first scent." You know how a chance whiff of an old lover's perfume or cologne can send you right back into the agony and the ecstasy of that relationship? Even more homey smells, like your...
In a recent editorial in the NY Times entitled Sex and Depression, Dr. Richard A. Friedman, M.D., writes of a female patient, "She was a 32-year-old woman who experienced a four- to six-hour period of intense depression and irritability after an orgasm, either alone or with a partner. It...
It doesn't take an expert in body-language to see that the First Couple is totallly into each other. Actually we don't have to speculate too much about the Obama's love-life because they've already told us a lot about it in a 1996 interview with the French newspaper Le Monde...
In the last year I've not only seen a significant increase in the number of men who are grappling with some form of DE (delayed ejaculation) --guys who can only reach orgasm via masturbation, guys who can't reach it at all--I've also been hearing increasingly from the partners of...
A new study published in this month's Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that erectile dysfunction (ED) is often an early indicator of poor cardiovascular health. Researchers followed more than 2,300 men for an average of four years and found that men with ED had a 58...
As we age, both men and women take longer to become sexually aroused, and may lose the urgency to have sex they once had. In men, waning testosterone levels can make a guy moody, irritable and depressed, as well as decrease his libido. In women, the hormonal changes of...
Sigmund Freud gave fantasy a bad name back in 1908 when he said, "A happy person never fantasizes, only a dissatisfied one." Granted, this is also the guy who said clitoral orgasms were immature, and fortunately, we've had a century of research (and impassioned women) to prove Freud wrong....
A new study out of Penn State Erie found that, according to therapists, social workers and physicians at least, the best sexual encounters last between seven and 13 minutes, not including foreplay. That's a far more reasonable timeframe for intercourse than most of us would've imagined, and upon hearing...
With more and more men taking prescribed medications, it's time to talk about sexual side-effects and what may be happening, or in this case not happening, in the bedroom. We're all familiar with the now-infamous orgasm scene in When Harry Met Sally. Meg Ryan is sitting across the table...
I hear it all the time: "I'm just dating him in the meantime." It reminds me of something Pablo Picasso said to aspiring artists: "Never take a part time job because it will become your full-time life." Dating "in the meantime" is based on the belief that time is infinite....
Unlike the executives at Enron, a woman's orgasm never lies. They can tell a woman the truth about a sexual encounter, often whether she wants to know it or not. That's because the female orgasm releases a burst of oxytocin, also known as the cuddle hormone, which facilitates a...
For years David Duchovny, in the form of F.B.I. agent Fox Mulder, chased down aliens and told us that we're not alone. So what should he be told now, after publicly admitting that he doesn't just play a sex addict on TV, but also struggles with the issue in...
Being in a long-term relationship isn't easy: it not only takes a sense of responsibility, but also a sense of transparency. For example, at any given time, my wife can text me, email me, ping me, call me on the cell, try me on the home line, or sometimes...
Few phenomena in this world are sliced and diced more than the female orgasm: Did it happen? Was it good? Where did it come from? Does size matter? Why did one technique work last week, but not this week? A new study is likely to add even more speculation...
I had just given a lecture at a singles workshop in New York City when a young woman approached me. She was attractive, thoughtful, articulate, and warm--the kind of woman you wouldn't expect to have "major issues," at least from external appearances. "I need help," she confessed after a...
Is there really such a thing as "male menopause"? The conventional wisdom says that menopause is a "woman's condition," but as men advance into their 40s they also experience a progressive decline in hormone levels, namely testosterone. The result can be andropause, which is estimated to affect about 5 million...