Sex on the Brain

with Ian Kerner

Vacation Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

What is it about getting away that makes a vacation so conducive to getting it on? With millions of Americans on spring break this month, a quick look at the vicissitudes of vacation sex seems in order. Of course you don't need a study (although there has been one) to...

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The Pill and a Woman's Sexual Choice in Men

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

A recent study shows that women with lower testosterone levels - typically caused by the use of hormone-based oral contraceptives like the pill - are more attracted to men who also have low testosterone levels. Previous studies have shown that the less testosterone a man has, the less likely he...

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Is sex addiction for real?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Or is it "nothing more than a pop-psychology phenomenon, serving only to demonize sex, enforce moral views of sex and relationships and excuse irresponsible behaviors?" Those are the fighting words of psychologist David Ley, who, in his rousing new book, "The Myth of Sex Addiction," expresses concern over the slippery...

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Sex and Depression

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

We live in a culture in which use of SSRIs (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), talk therapy, and mental health days have become nearly as common as gym memberships and multi-purpose vitamins. In fact, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that more than 20 million people in the U.S. experience depression....

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Guys, try erotica for a change instead of porn

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

"Fifty Shades of Grey" has put the words "bondage erotica" into the mainstream, according to Rachel Kramer Bussel, a writer and editor of more than 40 anthologies of erotica, including "Best Bondage Erotica 2012." "It has shown that you don't have to be a certain type of person to enjoy...

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Moaning During Sex: Why Louder Isn't Always Better

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

From "When Harry Met Sally" to "Sex and the City" to your basic porn film, women in the throes of passion aren't just shouting their ecstasy from the rooftops - they're moaning with pleasure. Loudly. But is this just cinematic license, or is there really something to noisy sex? Experts...

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Sexual Smarts

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

In his new book, "Sexual Intelligence," Marty Klein, Ph.D - a renowned sex therapist with more than 30 years of experience - challenges readers to think about their sex lives as though they suddenly woke up in Russia tomorrow, without any knowledge of the language and only a handful of...

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searching for the G-spot

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

The search for the G-spot is a bit like the sexual equivalent of searching for UFOs: rarely does a year goes by without a new study either confirming or disproving the existence of this small area just inside the vagina, which - to varying degrees - is a source of...

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How to Talk About Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

As a sexuality counselor, a big part of my work is to facilitate a dialogue between couples who have often waited far too long to discuss a sex issue. These couples have often allowed sex to become the elephant in the room. Maybe it started off with her faking it...

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The Latest Buzz on Vibrators

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

From Victorian times - when vibrators were invented to treat "female hysteria" - to "Sex and the City" times - when Charlotte discovered The Rabbit - generations of women have used vibrators to go from no-go to the Big O. But today's sex toys are more innovative than ever and...

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Sex Surrogates

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

A provocative movie premiered recently  at  the Sundance Film Festival that caught the attention of audiences and critics as well as sexuality professionals such as myself. "The Surrogate" chronicles the true story of a relationship between a surrogate partner (played by Helen Hunt) and her client (John Hawkes), a poet...

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Female Sexual Fluidity

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Actress Cynthia Nixon made headlines recently when she said during an interview that she "chooses" to be a lesbian. "I've been straight and I've been gay, and gay is better," she said. "For me, it is a choice." As you might expect, her comments - published in a New York...

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Sex When You're Overweight

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

On the CBS sitcom "Mike & Molly," the title characters meet at an Overeaters Anonymous support group and embark on a romantic relationship. It's an uncommon look at intimacy between plus-sized partners, played mainly for laughs. But with obesity rates skyrocketing in this country, sex when one or both partners...

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Does Sex Get Better After a Divorce?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

"If I hadn't gotten divorced, I never would have had the top five sexual experiences of my life," gushed Tom, a friend of a friend at a recent holiday party. What a turnaround! In 2010, at the same party, Tom* had been in the midst of splitting up with his...

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The Heart and Flow of Great Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

When you hear the words 'heart' and 'sex life' in the same sentence, odds are the speaker is probably talking about love. But your heart - or, more accurately, your cardiovascular system - actually has a lot to do with your ability to perform in the bedroom. This concept was...

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2.5 centimeters or less to the female orgasm

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Nearly every week I receive an email from at least one woman asking me what she needs to do to have an orgasm during intercourse, or worrying that something may be wrong with her because she can't. Yet I rarely, if ever, receive the same question from men. The simple...

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Faking and Infidelity

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Ladies, how many of you have ever faked it? If so, why? Did you fake it because your orgasm just wasn't going to happen? Or did you do it because his orgasm happened all too quickly? In that case, perhaps you faked your own orgasm to spare his feelings, or...

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Exercising for Your Sex Life

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

A recent study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that erectile dysfunction is often an early indicator of poor cardiovascular health.  So perhaps it's time to start "sexercising" and get in shape for love. What benefits can those sit-ups have on your bedroom performance besides...

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Sex When You're Trying to Conceive

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you have kids or are hoping to get pregnant, you know all too well that trying to conceive is one of the few times when sex isn't just about pleasure for pleasure's sake. In fact, unless you're one of those couples that get pregnant right away, conception sex can...

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Sex During Pregnancy

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you and your partner are expecting, you don't need to put your sex life on hold for the next nine months. In fact, conception and pregnancy can increase your sexual intimacy with your partner, and you may never feel closer. Of course, the hormonal changes of pregnancy can make...

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