When it comes to pleasuring a woman, knowing a little "sexual geography" goes a long way. Every guy should have a "clitoral compass" and know his way around a woman's sexual anatomy. At Good in Bed, we know that contrary to conventional wisdom--at least the kind that's as common as...
As a sex therapist and founder of the website Good in Bed, here's what I'm observing: - More couples are enjoying porn together, with women often taking the lead in choosing the material. - More women are using porn to get themselves in the mood for sex or to enjoy...
Not enjoying sex as much as you feel you should? It could be that you haven't yet discovered the best position (or positions) for providing the both of you with maximum pleasure. While the missionary position is nice, there is a world of alternative bodily arrangements out there. For some...
Absolutely. After the pain of infidelity has been mined and trust has been firmly restored, a couple can learn some important lessons that will help solidify their relationship. The irony is that sometimes an infidelity can be a catalyst for creating an even better relationship, by bringing hidden and repressed...
Emotions run rampant after disclosure of an affair and many people aren't able to get a grip on themselves, let alone what the future of the relationship holds. It's best in these times to adopt a wait-and-see approach. In her book Not "Just Friends" Dr. Shirley Glass recommends that a...
Some people react angrily when they learn of a partner's infidelity. Others respond calmly. Most people find that they swing between the two extremes in the days, weeks and, sometimes, months following the discovery of a partner's infidelity. The aftermath of infidelity is often a confusing and difficult time for...
After an affair is discovered, betrayed partners often want to know everything--from start to finish--about a partner's infidelity. It can feel overwhelming to the partner who strayed to answer questions and provide details that are only going to create more hurt and anger. However, a person who commits any kind...
Whether by chance or because you suspected something was wrong and snooped, finding evidence that your partner has cheated is a heart-breaking discovery. The initial shock is likely to trigger feelings of anger, sadness and everything in between. And as difficult as it may seem, it's best for you (and...
Transparency is important in any relationship, from the professional to the personal, but especially in our romantic relationships. If you wouldn't say or do something in front of your partner, it's generally best not to say or do it in front of anyone. That said, accessing each other's email...
In her book Not "Just Friends" Dr. Shirley Glass reported that 82 percent of unfaithful people started out being acquaintances, neighbors or coworkers with their affair partners. In other words, people who are unfaithful to their partners weren't looking for a relationship or seeking out strangers in a bar; it...
Attraction is magnified by an emotional connection. When one partner starts sharing himself or herself with another person, it chips away at the foundation of their relationship--and starts building a foundation for a new relationship. Part of what makes a couple's relationship special is the information they share only with...
When two people meet in a chat room or strike up an email relationship, it's easy to begin idealizing each other and blur the line between fantasy and reality. An intense sense of intimacy is quickly fostered. Sharing personal details and desires is often easier over the Internet than it...
Most people don't set out to have an emotional affair. Rather, it just happens, usually as a friendly relationship snowballs into something more meaningful. A common myth is that only people in unhappy relationships have emotional affairs. In fact, many men and women who commit emotional infidelity report that...
Picking up on the signs of an emotional affair isn't always easy. Many people wonder how they didn't know sooner. Others worry that their relationship paranoia is unfounded (and it may be). Ultimately, only you can know what your gut feeling is telling you. Here are some red flags...
Emotional infidelity is the new threat to loving relationships. An emotional affair starts as friendship, often with colleagues or seemingly harmless online relationships, and slowly progresses to something more. A gradual blurring of the lines between friendship and deeper intimacy draws even happily partnered people into relationships they never saw...
I have a confession: I may be a sex therapist, but my own sex life is pretty ordinary. Don’t get me wrong—my relationship with my wife is amazing. But if you think my line of work automatically means that we like to visit swingers' clubs or have mirrors on the...
Couples often ask me how frequently they should be having sex, and, until recently, I've always responded that there's no one right answer. After all, a couple's sex life is affected by so many different factors: age, lifestyle, each partner's health and natural libido and, of course, the quality of...
When it comes to men and their members, we all know that what goes up must, eventually, come down. But what about when a guy's erection goes up and stays up? At first blush, it sounds like bedroom benefit. But delayed ejaculation (DE) is a real problem. This umbrella term...
As a sex therapist, my profession often makes for interesting, and sometimes awkward, dinner conversation. Not too long ago I was at a cocktail party, when a woman in her mid-30s descended upon me. "Quick" she said in hushed tones, "My husband's getting me a drink. We only have a...
These days, all you have to do is turn on the TV or pick up a gossip magazine to see the future of our youth--and let me tell you, it's not pretty. In the age of Snooki, "Girls Gone Wild," and Tila Tequila, where on Earth is a young woman...