Sex on the Brain

with Ian Kerner

He Came. He saw. He Came Again. (The truth about Premature Ejaculation)

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you're anything like me, and you've suffered from premature ejaculation (PE) for as long as you can remember, then the simple words "stop/start" and "squeeze" probably make you want to run up to the roof, raise your arms to the sky, and shout at the top of your lungs,...

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Sex Therapy 101: Is Your Sex Life Getting Flabby?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Think fast: when was the last time you had sex? This week? Last week? Last month? Uhhhm, not so sure? If you've been spending more time Facebooking with friends than face-timing with your partner, keep reading: that little rut you're in could be on the verge of becoming a serious...

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Are you Cliterate?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Unsolved Mysteries. America's Most Wanted. Without A Trace. It's the way many of us guys feel about the female orgasm--it belongs right up there on the back of the milk carton. Let's face it: Pleasuring a woman is like an episode of CSI (in this case, Climax Scene Investigation); we're...

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Choreplay--the New Foreplay?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Ever seen a book called Porn for Women? The cover sports a smiling man performing an act that doubtless makes many women sigh with pleasure: He's vacuuming the living room. Inside the pages, another man does laundry, promising to go grocery shopping with the kids "so you can relax." It's...

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It's an "e-Motional" Affair

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Welcome to the age of the "e-motional" affair, where infidelity is just click away, and cheating has become easier than setting up a Wii. From i-phones and blackberries to Facebook, Twitter, and Craig's List, technology isn't just enabling infidelity, it's accelerating it at record pace: Flirtatious friendships, emotional affairs, the...

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A Sexy Staycation

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

When it comes to your sex life, you could probably use a staycation every once in awhile. (A staycation is a vacation from life that doesn't require that you actually leave home.) In fact, we insist upon it. For this particular staycation, we're taking you on a trip around...

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For moms and dads, sleep is often more satisfying than sex

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

I don't care what anybody says, including my wife, sleep is better than sex. I do it seven days a week, I can last all night, and I don't have to cuddle. Could anything be hotter than sleep? Okay, of course I'm joking...Sort of. With a six-year old son who's...

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Are you having an affair with your baby?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If parenthood has taught me one thing it's that, irrespective of my public persona as a relationship expert, I am far from being an expert in my own relationship. Like many a new father, life after baby #1 left me confused and conflicted, not to mention sleepless, sexless, hard-up and...

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Is Tiger Woods a Sex Addict, or Just a Typical New Dad?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

So now it seems as though Tiger Woods may be checking himself into a rehab center in Mississippi to deal with purported sex-addiction. And while claiming to be a sex-addict is a great way to quickly "medicalize" one's dalliances and start the process of media redemption, Tiger may indeed fit...

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PE by the Numbers

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

American Pie. Fast Times at Ridgemont High. In pop culture, climaxing too soon is usually the punch line to a bad joke. But there's nothing funny about premature ejaculation (PE), especially if you have it. Most guys occasionally ejaculate sooner than we--and our partners--would like. As frustrating as it...

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Boys will be boys, but will they grow up to be gentlemen?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

I have two sons, ages 6 and 3, so I guess have a bit more time before I have to start worrying about them transforming into hormone-raging cads. But if today's world of sexting, rainbow parties, Girls Gone Wild and Tila Tequila is any indication of what's to come, I'm...

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Internet Infidelity: to snoop or not to snoop?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Like cell phones and hotel rooms, the Internet is a facilitator of infidelity, rather than a direct cause of it, but it's increasingly a catalyst for a particularly pernicious strain of cheating: emotional infidelity....

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Why you should have sex at least once a week

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

In today's harried world, many couples find themselves juggling a laundry list of responsibilities (no pun intended). From kids to careers to simply getting enough sleep, it's all too easy for many couples allow their relationship to fall to the bottom of that to-do list, since there are so many...

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Porn: not always a problem

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

For many guys porn is basically a thirty-second spa-day, complete with happy ending: it feels good, relieves stress, and functions as a quick little treat -- kind of like scarfing down a bag of gummy bears in the middle of the day. It doesn't mean we're not interested in...

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Choreplay: why a clean kitchen makes for hot foreplay

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Forget romantic dinners and a room for two at your favorite weekend spot. It turns out that the key to great sex for women is a clean kitchen--and maybe some help making sure the kids' homework is done. Sexy, huh?...

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Should your spouse be your Facebook friend? Maybe not.

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Jack, a new patient who has been married for eight years with two young sons, rails against Facebook: "Let's see: yesterday my wife: Felt bloated Realized she has nothing to wear Posted yet another adorable photo album of our boys dressed as Jedi warriors. Was missing Michael Jackson and,...

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Are you ten dates away from true love?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

How many bad dates do you need to go on before you find the one? The answer may be as simple as 1, 2, 3. Anyone who's dated knows it's a numbers game. All it takes is one person to set you on the path towards happily ever after--or...

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Is Dad depressed?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

For new dads, is there a male equivalent of PPD (aka postpartum depression)? There isn't much research into the subject, but in talking to other counselors and therapists, I would estimate that rates of paternal depression range up to about 25 percent when there isn't concurrent PPD in the...

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Shake up your sex life

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you ever happen to find yourself crossing the Capilano River in North Vancouver, Canada, you'll have two bridges to choose from: The first is definitely not for the faint of heart: A mere five feet wide and 450 feet long, the Capilano Canyon Suspension Bridge is constructed solely...

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Recession-proof your relationship

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

As our economy goes from boom to bust so too do many relationships. Even in the best of times financial stress can take its toll on a relationship. But now, as we panic about an uncertain future, stressors become terrors, cracks become fissures, and our connections to our partners...

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