Introducing this Blog

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you're perusing this blog, you probably already know what it can be like to occasionally ejaculate sooner than you--and your partner--would like. Sure, it's annoying. You're embarrassed, self-conscious, and worried you haven't pleased her. But is it a real problem? As frustrating as it is, coming too quickly every now and then isn't usually a cause for concern. In fact, it hap-pens to most guys from time to time.

But what if you consistently ejaculate too soon? What if intercourse typically only lasts about a minute-- sometimes mere seconds? What if you find yourself constantly feeling ashamed, anxious, and stressed out by even the thought of sex because you know you can't last? What if you've never known any other way?

If this sounds like you, you could have premature ejaculation. You're not alone. Premature ejaculation, or PE, is the most common type of sexual dysfunction a man can have. Some experts estimate that up to 30 percent of men have PE--but you wouldn't know it from talking to your friends.

To say that it's tough to talk about PE is an understate- ment. Most guys don't want to admit that they've got any kind of sexual problem, especially one as sensitive as ejaculating too soon. It doesn't help that stereotypes about PE tend to label it as a problem limited to horny teenagers (just take a look at movies like American Pie or Fast Times at Ridgemont High) or selfish jerks (Lorena Bobbitt famously claimed, after cutting off her husband's penis, "He always has an orgasm and doesn't wait for me").

The truth is that PE can happen to anyone. It doesn't matter how old you are, how much experience you have, or how much you know about sex. Trust me when I say I know this all too well: I've grappled with PE myself.

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