Advice from the Experts

Let's have a sex-toy party!

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Picture this: A group of female friends lounge around a living room, noshing on snacks and sipping wine. At the center of the circle, a woman gives a presentation on her wares, sharing bits of knowledge with the hope that some of the women will choose to purchase her products....

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Low Desire and Women

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Let's face it, it isn't so easy for women. On the one hand, you have women who were brought up to be "proper," "modest," "ladylike" (whatever that is!) and were told that desiring or even enjoying sex was not becoming. Then you have women who were taught that it was...

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Back Pain and Sex

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

An estimated eight out of 10 Americans will suffer from back pain at some point in their lives, according to the National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases. It's no surprise that can have big effects on what goes on in your bedroom: whether a temporary strain slows...

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Sex After a Heart Attack

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

The health benefits of sex are many:  It cuts your risk of heart attack or stroke. It burns calories. It boosts your immune system. It soothes nerves. And not only is this activity good for your health, but it feels fantastic, too. But what if you've already suffered from...

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Semen Volume

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

When it comes to semen volume, if you are comparing yourself to what you see in porn, you better stop right there and think again.  Too many people compare themselves to porn and somehow it doesn't sink in that IT'S A MOVIE and some aspects of it are FAKE.  A...

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Ladies, do you Gaggle?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

If you're a single woman and you're looking for love, forget about "The Rules" and stop worrying that "He's just not that into you." That was then, this is now - it's a post-dating world you're living in, and that means you have to shed your one-to-one mind-set and start...

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anti-depressants and infertility

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

In 2011, the CDC reported that at least 11% of Americans are on antidepressant medications, of which SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) are the most common type.  SSRIs are famous for having sexual side effects such as decreased desire, erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, and inability to achieve orgasm.  Not as...

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Establishing Sexual Compatibility Before Marriage

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Most couples tying the knot don't want to wait until the honeymoon to know if things are going to work in the bedroom, and would agree that having sex before marriage is an important way to establish if there's a basic level of sexual compatibility. But -- without getting into...

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"meant to be" monogamous

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

I want to teach you all a vocabulary word - or a vocabulary phrase, actually: phenotypic plasticity The reason I want you to know this is that I've been attempting to read "Sex at Dawn," a book that argues (as far as I can tell) that we are not designed...

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Understanding Hypersexuality

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

It seems that between celebrity affairs, sex rehab shows on television, and the explosion of internet pornography, sexual addiction has become a household term familiar to most.  In fact, the media has commandeered this term to create interest, and possibly rationalizations, for public figures' involvement in affairs and indiscretions, as...

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Female Orgasm

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Women definitely have the advantage over men in the area of sexuality in the sense that they can experience not only multiple orgasms, but can even reach orgasm through different stimulation in different areas.  There are women who can reach orgasm having their breasts and nipples stimulated, some from certain...

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Blood Flow and Male Sexual Health

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

When you break it all down, everything in the body, including sex, is dependent on good blood flow. Our body's way of nourishing itself and keeping itself vibrant and alive is by carrying oxygen, hormones, and nutrients via the bloodstream to all tissues and cells. The more activity that a...

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Condom Education

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

In today's wonderful world of silently but sexually transmitted illnesses, wearing a condom is a must. It does take a little bit of a learning curve, and certainly a little investment in finding just which condom fits you the best and feels the best for the both of you. But...

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When a Man Won't Go Down

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Ladies, have you ever come across a man who just seems to be unable, unwilling, or avoidant when it comes to giving you oral sex? Even when you have tried your best to convince and cajole him into going down on you, he just doesn't want to spend any time...

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Ben Wa Balls

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Good vaginal tone is often a concern to many women and men alike. But how does a women keep good vaginal tone? The vagina is affected by hormonal factors (that maintain the inner tissues of the vagina and the external glands), as well as the tone of the PC muscles...

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When Size is a Problem

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

You'll almost never hear a guy complain that his penis is too big. If you do, it's because his partner is uncomfortable with it, it's so big that he's losing consciousness when he gets an erection, or he's trying to wear outfits that suggest he doesn't have one. But usually...

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A Woman's Testosterone Level

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Perhaps you feel that you no longer have any interest in sex or sexual pleasure as you used to in the past? Maybe your brain is cooperating, but you feel that you body has jumped ship because your clitoris is just not as sensitive as it used to be...

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HPV and Throat Cancer

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

Researchers have recently linked the significant increase in throat cancer to a particular strain of the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV).  In a study published in the Journal of Clinical Oncology, researchers explain that there has been a 225% increase in throat cancer related to HPV 16 from the years 1988...

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Are you Clitorally Aware?

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

What is the key to orgasm for most women, with the highest concentration of nerve endings of the entire body? Most people know that it is the clitoris. But how well do you know the clitoris? The little pink pearl that peeks out from under the skin that forms a...

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Sex After Prostate Surgery

Posted by Madeleine Castellanos, M.D.

With prostate cancer making up about 30% of all cancers in men, it's not surprising that over 100,000 men in the United States per year require complete removal of their prostate in what is called a radical prostatectomy.  One of the complications of this type of prostate surgery is loss...

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