Advice from the Experts

Your Sanity or Your Sex Life: Coping with Sexual Side Effects

Posted by Ed Ratush

If you're like the estimated 27 million Americans who take antidepressant drugs, you're faced with a dilemma every time you open the prescription bottle: The medication has helped you stay out of the dark shadow of depression, but it's having some less than positive effects on your sex life. As...

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What Men Can Learn About Women from Karen Owens' "hit-list"

Posted by Anna Potter

This week at Good in Bed, we're ripping our sex lesson straight from the headlines. Just in case you've been living under a rock for the past week, let's start with a little bit of background. To chronicle four (very) successful years, Duke University senior Karen Owens created an extensive,...

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What Goes Down Will Go Up: A Woman's Take on Erectile Disorder

Posted by Anna Potter

The ups and downs of men and their members has left many a woman feeling flummoxed and forlorn, and all this week at Good in Bed we're talking about "mechanical male-functions." Virtually every woman I know - myself included - has dealt with a man who, at one time or...

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Porn, and the thin line between Pleasure and Problem

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

Is porn just a quick way to blow off some sexual steam? Or is it damaging to your relationship? My short answer: It can be both. Here's why. First off, masturbation is a healthy activity. When couples are in good relationships, they actually tend to masturbate more than when they're...

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When Wives Want Sex More than Their Husbands

Posted by Gail Saltz, M.D.

Ever since the advent of Viagra, we've been led to believe that hot sex is as close as the nearest pharmacy. If the millions of prescriptions filled for the "little blue pill" are any indication, men can solve their sexual problems just by taking a medication. Your guy isn't quite...

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Is a threesome in your future?

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

Sure, sex with your partner is smokin', but how much hotter would it be to add a third person to the mix? At Good In Bed, we know that a threesome, or menage a trois, has crossed the minds of most couples at some point or another, whether as a...

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Dear Expert: What should I expect if I decide to have an abortion?

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

You've considered all of your options and have made the decision to get an abortion. Maybe you aren't ready to become a parent (financially, emotionally, etc.), perhaps you're a survivor of rape or incest, or maybe you already have all the children you can handle. So, what now? Now that...

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Quick Question: What's a Good 'Number' for a Girl at 21/25/30 ...?

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

People ask me this kind of question a lot, and I'll be honest with you: I don't get it. I understand that people are worried about being "normal," but really, are you gonna decide how many sex partners to have based on the say-so of an article you read online?...

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The Poor Man's Guide to Dealing With Sex Addiction

Posted by Joe Kort, Ph.D, MSW

The past few years have put a very public face on what's usually a rather private issue: sex addiction. As a therapist who's certified to treat sex addiction, I'm pleased that celebrities like Tiger Woods, Jesse James and  David Ducovny have come out of the shadows, and admitted they have a...

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Dealing with Mismatched Libidos

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

Is there an 800-pound gorilla in your bedroom? There might be, if you and your partner can't agree on sex. As a researcher at Indiana University Bloomington's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, I'm familiar with all the ways couples can differ in their sexual needs. One of the biggest mismatches?...

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Quick Question: How do I have an Orgasm During Intercourse?

Posted by Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., MPH

Believe it or not, the clitoris is involved in pretty much all types of women's orgasms -- even if it's not directly being stimulated at the time. That's because science has made it very clear that the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye. (For starters, it extends backward...

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Quick Question: What's the Deal With the New Morning-After Pill?

Posted by Anna Potter

Emergency contraception -- what a lovely thing! First, let's clear something up: The "morning-after pill" is really a misnomer. Emergency contraception (E.C.) -- like the new Ella pill just approved by the FDA -- works within five days of unprotected sex; Plan B, which currently exists, works within 72 hours....

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Female Infidelity: Is Your Wife a Cheating Time Bomb?

Posted by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT

From bored moms to flashy celebrities, female infidelity is on the rise. It's often said that men cheat for sex, while women cheat for love. In general, men can more easily compartmentalize between sex and emotion, while women typically need to experience an emotional connection to a person before feeling...

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When Three is Not a Crowd

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

Is a threesome in your future? Whether with your lover, a fling, or your life partner, the fantasy of a ménage à trios has crossed the mind of many at one point or another. Not everyone is open to it, but you'll be happy to know that many (men and...

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9 Things They Don't Tell Women About Marriage, Pregnancy, and Kids

Posted by Heidi Raykeil

You wanted the hot guy. You wanted the diamond ring. You wanted the adorable baby in the hip-but-affordable stroller. Now you've got it all--but you're not "getting any". Yet, somehow, between choosing bridesmaid dresses and recommending breast pumps, your girlfriends neglected to mention this.  3 Things They Don't Tell You...

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Dealing with Mismatched Libidos

Posted by Kristen Mark, Ph.D.

Is there an 800-pound gorilla in your bedroom? There might be, if you and your partner can't agree on sex. As a researcher at Indiana University Bloomington's Center for Sexual Health Promotion, I'm familiar with all the ways couples can differ in their sexual needs. One of the biggest mismatches?...

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Lights On/Lights Off: Achieving Sexual Compatibility

Posted by Belisa Vranich

He says tom-ay-to; you say to-mah-to. He turns the lights on; you switch them right back off. He wants to do it in the restroom of your local Starbucks; you get skittish anywhere that isn't the safety and comfort of your own bed.  I often help couples deal with differences...

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How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You

Posted by Logan Levkoff, Ph.D.

Okay guys, stop all your whining and complaining for a second and listen up: If you want more sex from your wives, you have to grow up and recognize that people change, relationships change, and your sex life doesn't stay the same. As a sexologist and relationship expert, the one...

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Is She Faking It?

Posted by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Thanks to Meg Ryan's infamous scene in When Harry Met Sally, we've witnessed just how easy it is for women to fake an orgasm. And, really, all your partner needs to do is watch a few minutes of most porn to see how to "have what she's having." Think she...

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When Foreplay Becomes "Boreplay"

Posted by Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., MPH

Foreplay: When you're not getting it, it seems like any will do. But the truth is, foreplay can get just as routine as intercourse. Sometimes it can feel like you're both going through the motions and can predict each other's moves like clockwork. A little kissing here, a hand on...

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