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Cougar Sex for Young Men

By milf on Jan 22, 2011 at 3:58 PM

Is it a big turn on for a younger guy to be able to have a older women in her sexual prime to pursue him in a sexual way to be able to have to not worry about being the aggressor and letting the women just take over? Not to mention the idea of an encounter without the worry of the next day call back issue.

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WD | Jan 22, 2011 at 5:58 PM | Reply | Report

milf: I have always loved for the woman to be the initiator. But are you looking to be a "user". Do you think the sex you have with these young men will be life enhancing and character building or just a no-strings-attached satisfaction for them? My comments may seem somewhat judgemental, and I own that they are...but those same dudes should be forming significant, healthy relations with someone their own age or social equals. But nevertheless, have great, safe, sex with any aged deserving man but stay centered in whether its a healthy relationship...even if its just a one night stand (old school). Fully answering your question: I would have loved to connect with someone like you back in my youth. There were a couple of girlfriends mothers I would have loved to bonk--if they'd have made the first move :)

No one you know | Jan 22, 2011 at 6:29 PM | Reply | Report

Hi milf! Your user name and title for your discussion almost caused me an erection!!! I am 24 years old and I do love women that are older than me, NONE WRINKLED, but in shape, not have to be perfect. Those how are 40 or even 50 and look awesomely good which I have actually seen in real life, not just porn, turns me on the most!!! I have to disagree with one of your thoughts, at least for me I don't like to be dominated 100% I like it to be a 75/25 activity, me being 75, because I like to dominate too! But I am also up for surprises that i believe cougars are able and experienced to perform!!! And not having to worry about the next day call issue is a big plus! I don't want to mess with a MILF that is married! How old are you? Do men in general find you attractive? Be truthful!!!

But as you can see on my previous blog which is right before and next to yours, religion is a big barrier for me so my expressions at this moment come from pure urge, fantasy and desire than true experience!

Belisa Vranich | Jan 23, 2011 at 5:34 PM | Reply | Report

Tsk tsk tsk! Now, now "No one you know," this is not a hook up site but a discussion forum (where you have made several insightful comments I note). If you are interested in MILFs there are websites for that and even MILF nights at some bars/clubs. :)

Thank you for breaking the myth that milfs have to look like Demi Moore or dominant to be in older woman-younger man relationships.

No one you know | Jan 23, 2011 at 9:10 PM | Reply | Report

I know this is a discussion forum and not a hook up place which I did not intend to do at all! LOL. I was commenting and replying to her blog and also expressing my thoughts about her subject which I think it is part of a discussion too! :-)

I also thank you for your remarks, it honors me to get that from a sexologist!

OhioGirl | Jan 24, 2011 at 2:06 PM | Reply | Report

Do they actually advertise them as "Milf nights"???

Eh Canadian | Jan 23, 2011 at 5:42 PM | Reply | Report

I guess if you are looking for a decent intellecual discussion and fairly decent english grammer, you take poster #1...

Recognizing that a good portion of what most of us will do tomorrow is :just getting by" and NOT "life enhancing and character building", I'd say go for it. Spreading your knowledge to the younger (adult) generation is a good thing.

Moe | Jan 24, 2011 at 5:30 PM | Reply | Report

OK, so if I'm a 45 yr old man having a sexual relationship with a 20 yr old women is this reversed cougaring? And what would you call that cougaranding? Just made that word up....get it "randy" cougar"randing" Thats greatness laughing at my own funny one.

goodinbed | Jan 25, 2011 at 6:57 AM | Reply | Report

I've often heard the term cougar used and as a 46 year old who is sexually active with younger men, it disturbs me. I believe that there are negative connotations surrounding couger'ness'. Beleive me the last thing i want to do is dominate, au contraire. I like a strong, toned, buff man to be able to maneuver me around the house. I hope that there are lots more men out there who desire an older woman for her experience, the freedom she has and that she in no way wants 'to settle down'. And are not looking to be scolded and told what to do.

Ed Ratush | Jan 25, 2011 at 10:42 AM | Reply | Report

There is novelty to be found in intimate match ups with people with different characteristics, age being one of them. Our society has sexual trends and younger men and older women is certainly a much discussed sexual trend. I has always been around but now discussed more often and with more participants "checking it out". Ageism is a real issue in industrial societies, I wonder whether "cougar hookups" are helping or hurting social advancement.

Paul | Jan 25, 2011 at 11:25 AM | Reply | Report

'Cougar' has a bad connotation. The animal this phenomenom is named after is predatory. I think the reality is far from that.

Generally speaking many women keep themselves very well these days. They stay fit and dress well at an age that a few generations ago would have been considered 'over the hill.'

So if you are judging solely on appearance the gap between a younger woman and an older woman is not that significant. Add to that the older woman has figured out want she wants and thus is less likely to play games. For many men this combination is very appealing.

For the womans part she gets a man who has not yet slowed down and who appreciates what she has to offer.

It's a win/win situation.

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