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Lack of Erection in Woman-on-Top

By phantom1996 on Jan 7, 2011 at 5:16 PM

I have always been able to climax during intercourse from the woman-on-top(WOT)position. I must keep my legs straight and tighten my muscles, so this is the only position that works. The problem is that my guy can't stay hard in WOT. Part of it is it's uncomfortable for him with the pressure on the pubic bone, and part is that I need less movement than he needs to keep an erection. I do not get much stimulation in other positions and am unable to cum in other positions, even with oral or hand stimulation. For now, we try the WOT position right after he cums, as he is still a bit hard. But, if I am not close enough to climax, he becomes soft before I can. This causes me to not want sex, as I don't want to become more frustrated. It is extra frustrating, knowing I can climax from intercourse, but can't here because that's the position that won't work for him. Is there anything we can try that will help him to remain hard in WOT or is there another position that will provide similar stimulation for me?

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Beau | Jan 8, 2011 at 5:07 PM | Reply | Report

Have him try a soft, streachy cock ring. They fit snug enough to keep blood from draining out and will keep him hard enough for your ride. Plus, the nubs on the ring will give you extra stimulation to get you to happyland.

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT | Jan 8, 2011 at 8:33 PM | Reply | Report

Try the we-vibe -- it's a very cool vibrator that was designed for intercourse -- basically it's a C-shaped flexible vibrator that provides clitoral and g-spot stimulation in a variety of intercourse positions. Woman on Top is definitely known to be the position that most readily facilitates the female orgasm, but something like the we-vibe might really help with other positions.

Madeleine Castellanos, M.D. | Jan 8, 2011 at 10:08 PM | Reply | Report

From your description, it sounds as if you are getting clitoral stimulation from pressure against his pubic bone. If that is the case, you can try a variation on the coital alignment technique. Start off in missionary position (man on top). Once he has penetrated you deeply, bring your legs together between his with him staying as deep as he can. He then shifts his weight slightly forward so that the shaft of his erection is producing firm pressure and friction on your clitoris as he moves. This should allow you to keep your legs straight and get the pressure on your clitoris, but he can be on top and get a little more movement for him. It takes a little practice and tweaking of the angle, but it's really great.

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