The Doctor is In!

Body gets stiff when performing

By Chanthai on Feb 12, 2017 at 1:38 AM

So... I've never had this issue with anyone else. I've always been able to move my hips and ass, especially doggy style. But with him, my rhythm is off. It's like I get stiff and can't move right... to the point he snacks my ass and tells me to be still. I don't know what it is. It's almost like I feel super nervous when im with him and end up laying like a dead fish. To make it worse, he makes me orgasm so much, when we're done, I get super quiet. Like creepy quiet. I'm sure he probably wonders wtf is wrong with me. I love this man so much and I don't want to lose him. I don't know why I my body does this. It didn't do it initially, but I realized it did start to happen when my feelings got deeper for him. Thoughts? Advice?

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Kate McCombs, MPH | Feb 15, 2017 at 2:15 AM | Reply | Report

It sounds like you have some very intense feelings for this man and that it's affecting the way you experience sex. That sounds normal, even if it's different than what you've experienced in the past. Often when we have big feels, it can affect us physically.

Have you talked openly with him about your feelings, worries, and what's going on for you when you have sex with him? I wonder if some more open communication would help you feel more movement in your body.

ALTI | Feb 15, 2017 at 9:48 AM | Reply | Report

I think Kate is right on. I'm currently experience a lot of odd sexual performance with my new girlfriend whom is someone I could totally see myself marrying in the future. We talk about everything though, I'm lucky that she is as open as I am. I think that helps a lot. Does he express dissatisfaction with your performance? I personally don't mind a girl to let me take control of the movement, especially if she is getting satisfaction from my work.

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