I'm in my 40's he's in his late 30's. So experience on both sides. We had sex for the first time last night. It was ok but it wasn't great. He didn't make sure that I orgasmed (disappointing). When he came he was done walked away cleaned up and then got dressed. I'm usually an approach things head on type of person. I didn't say anything at the time because I was just like hmmm. Question is should I just tell him what I expect and that I was disappointing or should I just give it a second go and hope that it's better. I know first times aren't always great. It's not like he doesn't know what I like we've talked about what we both like extensively through text so that's not the problem in general. I'm used to being able to orgasm multiple times every time. Would love to hear from both men and women on this. I'm a communicator so it feels right to say something but I don't want to totally crush his ego. I know he enjoyed it.