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Wife fantasizes of other men during sex

By Arkguy on Mar 24, 2017 at 11:16 PM it normal to fantasize of other men during sex with your husband?
We have been married since college (30 years). About 15 years ago my wife had a 3-4 month affair. Unwisely, I wanted to know all the details of their encounters and she shared with me that the sex and her orgasms were great. I have noticed that she has not had an orgasm with me during intercourse since her affair. However, if I wear a strap on or penis extender she always orgasms during intercourse. I believe by adding these enhancements she feels she is having sex with another guy. which allows her to orgasm.

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Kate McCombs, MPH | Mar 26, 2017 at 7:24 PM | Reply | Report

Yes, it's normal for people to occasionally fantasize about people who aren't in the room when they're having sex. That's quite common.

It's possible that's what's going on with your wife, but it's also possible that the added sensation from the extender or the the novelty of the strap on is what's doing it for her. The only way to know is to ask her, which you may or may not choose to do.

CE | Mar 27, 2017 at 11:43 AM | Reply | Report

It's normal for me. It doesn't mean I love my husband any less. There's just something exciting about it.

Kevin | Apr 22, 2017 at 5:01 PM | Reply | Report

Totally normal. My wife also fantasizes from time to time about having sex with another man who is really well endowed.

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