The Doctor is In!

Boyfriend checking out other things..

By Mouse117 on Apr 20, 2017 at 6:12 AM

Hi All!

So my boyfriend and me have been together for 10 years. We have what I like to think is a good, adventures , regular sex life..
I have now on 2 occasions busted him looking at other women on tumblr. I'm totally cool with the porn and we even watch it together.. but he is messaging people and going on about how hot and stunning they are and even doing pictures and videos of himself jerking off to their pictures.
I know he has a much more kinky side than he lets me see so it's almost like with them he isn't insecure and can let loose with no judgement.
He says it's just like interactive porn to him and nothing more.

I don't know what to do to make him feel he can be this way with me.. it would actually be quite welcome. He knows that but is insecure.

What do you all think???

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Kate McCombs, MPH | Apr 20, 2017 at 2:01 PM | Reply | Report

I wonder if it's truly insecurity or if it's actually just variety he's seeking. Many people also don't want to engage in their kinkier fantasies with their primary partner. Lots of people want variety in their fantasy life, but it sounds like this may be crossing a boundary for you in terms of how much interaction he's having with these women.

The thing to assess would be how comfortable you are with this behavior of his. Is it a deal breaker for you?

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