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Casual sex in university

By Michael blonde on Apr 15, 2017 at 10:31 PM

Hi forum,

I'm a virgin male.

I have decided to engage in casual sex with my female friends in university ?

I've had chat with the counsellor and she suggested I used humour to ask for sex with female friend. Method to build up rapport before sex would be helpful as well as establishing boundaries.

I want to create a fun , non pressured , non judgmental environment. I'm ready to listen and respect what she wants ( casual or commited )

Right now I want to initiate a friends with benefits relationship with my potential partner.

What playful questions or gestures could I use to initiate sex without making it look too direct, creepy , or forceful ?

It's important I handle sex before, during and , after well too. I want to leave her feeling cared for instead of used.

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Kate McCombs, MPH | Apr 17, 2017 at 2:42 PM | Reply | Report

Thanks for your question. It sounds like you're on the right track for having some positive casual sex encounters.

While I think it's awesome that you're wanting to avoid being creepy and forceful, being direct can be great. Saying what you want can go a long way in establishing consent. The trick is to make sure that there's lots of signs of mutual interest (flirting, casual touching, warmth) before you ask, "So would you be interested in making out sometime?"

After establishing mutual interest, you can playfully offer what thing you think would be fun to do. "I'd really enjoy (insert activity) with you sometime. Would that be fun for you?" Remember that everything doesn't have to happen in one night.

Here's an article that might be helpful to you too:

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