The Doctor is In!

Frigid liar . . .

By justme on Apr 19, 2017 at 4:33 AM

i was only orgasmic with one partner (@14/5 years old). he left at about the same time my dad and brother moved out and my family bombed out - and i think the trauma of that combined with earlier sexual abuse by a family member kindof did my head in. I was very lonely as well at 16-18 years and noticed that all the 'cool' girls at school were 'loved' if they were hypersexual. i am guessing a little here but since that time i have literally had what i call 'prostitute syndrome' - altho i do actually enjoy and want sex i cannot climax with a partner - it is mostly a huge act on my part. faked orgasms included. it is not real. i dont know if i am so disconnected because of my past or because of fear - sex for me is almost a way to buy love and acceptance. I need to stop the ACT. i can't tell my current partner of 2 years that he has never actually given me a full orgasm - and i dont know how to reverse the last 30 years and start being the real me from here on out?

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Kate McCombs, MPH | Apr 19, 2017 at 7:38 AM | Reply | Report

I responded to your earlier question with some similar advice: I think you'd get a lot out of some sessions with a qualified sex therapist. They could help you unpack the psychological factors that have contributed to the physical experiences of sex that you struggle with.

You can find one near you here:

I wish you lots of luck in finding the real you, as you say.

justme | Apr 19, 2017 at 7:58 AM | Reply | Report

thank you

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