I Need Help With My Performance... What Should I Do Differently?I recently ended a 9-year relationship and I've had a string of casual hookups on Tinder for the last 2 months. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I have a large penis and I've always known this. However, I was with my ex for 9 years and she was my only sexual partner for those 9 years, so she got used to my size and never complained.
While the women I've been with post-breakup have been great, they all seem to complain in one way or another that I am too rough and need to be more gentle. I've tried slowing my pace and use lube but at times the look of discomfort on their face can be a turn-off.
What I'd like to know is what should I do differently to make sex more enjoyable for them?