The Doctor is In!

I can't make him come during oral

By dispoj on May 2, 2017 at 12:23 PM

I have a problem - I can't make my boyfriend come. I have really low self-esteem lately because of that. He is my first boyfriend. I had my first try at giving blowjob 1.5 years ago. Ever since then, almost every time we are intimate, I give him oral. But after 10 min, I usually come on top of him and we continue that way. In my whole blowjob-experience, I have made him come only several times, with his own help (he moves to help me).I have read many articles, watched videos - nothing helps. I am very disappointed lately, and even when I start giving bj, I am just not comfortable. After 15min I realize that I'm tired and he's still away from coming. And I give up, and I feel TERRIBLE!
He also told me a couple of months ago, that he dreamed of his ex giving him mind blowing blowjob... And that made me even more uncomfortable, and I can't stop thinking about it, it makes me so sad...
Is it better to just stop trying? He says whatever I do is good for him, but it's just not that simple...

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Kate McCombs, MPH | May 2, 2017 at 5:20 PM | Reply | Report

First of all, when he says that what you are doing is good for him, trust him. A blow job isn't just about the orgasm - it can feel really good to receive the stimulation even if you don't come. Unless he's told you to stop doing it (which it sound like he hasn't), keep enjoying each other's bodies without focussing so hard on the orgasm part.

Secondly, many guys don't come from oral sex at all, let alone in the time frame that you describe (less than 15 minutes). That's not necessarily about your technique - it can just be about the way their bodies work.

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