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Male erection

By Sanfranciscogirl6 on May 3, 2017 at 3:03 PM

My husband tells me he has a fetish...he waited until we'd been married for 3 years to tell me! From what I've read, this isn't really a fetish...I need some help!
I've noticed that he can masturbate himself...he can ejaculate...but only if I talk to him about other men's penises.
To have sex with me, he has to use viagra ...I still have to talk about other men's penises....but at least 50% of the time, he can't ejaculate. This takes all the fun out of sex for me since I can't concentrate on my own body....I have to talk him through it...non-stop...about how hard a man can get.
5 months ago, when he first told me, he expressed his interest in me having sex with another man while he watched. Then he wanted to try to ejacuale in me....only if the other man had ejaculated first. He owns panties and 5 cockcages. I think all of this is pretty sleazy. He also says he wants to be cuckholded and dominated.

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Kate McCombs, MPH | May 4, 2017 at 1:33 PM | Reply | Report

I can imagine that learning all of this about him might be quite confronting. It sounds like it's taken a lot of the joy out of sex for you.

While there's nothing inherently wrong with these sexual interests of his, it sounds like they are incompatible with yours. I'm guessing you have feelings about the fact that he waiting so long to tell you about them. I'm also wondering if your sexual needs are being attended to?

If you are committed to staying in the marriage, the two of you may want to seek out sex therapy. If that interested you both, you could find a therapist near you here:

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