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  • Commented on Lost Sex Drive
    Y'all need some sex therapy. If he won't go with you, go alone. These are red flags. Not anything abnormal about what's happening to you, but ignoring it or trying to fix it yourselves or yourself are not advised. Google...
  • Commented on Female Beauty
    I feel I CAN answer this, I'm a guy and could care less about other people's morality. Not to say I don't respect each person's moral code, however. So cutting to the quick... "it depends". How do you feel, in...
  • Commented on oral sex
    You didn't state your age or what medications you are taking, or which type of operation you had. I had radical prostatectomy in 2007 and quickly discovered that there is almost a complete lack of assistance for folks like us...
  • Commented on Wife wants sex/afraid of intimacy
    I'm shocked no one has given you an answer to your question by now. You very clearly (not her) need educating about her condition, past experiences. That means working with a qualified sex therapist and coach who has dealt with...
  • Commented on Long Distance Relationship - Frustrated
    What rungirlDC says....
  • Commented on Girlfriend wants more athletic sex for her
    Great advice from rungirlDC, jojo. Try doggie in which you simply position yourself and she does all the back-thrusting onto your member. For missionary stand at edge of the bed with her perhaps elevated by pillow under her hips and...
  • Commented on Single @ 25
    Dot, you say you "really love her" but dude, you haven't had a chance in 5 years to really know her, yet. Don't judge her interest or lack of interest in you as defining who you are or how worthy...
  • Commented on Sexual Development
    Mit and eammon, you have both been through a lot. Few men would have been as accepting and brave as you two have been. Give yourselves credit for being the men you are, despite your extraordinary challenges. Be proud of...
  • Commented on Vaginal soreness
    So, has she had a pelvic exam to find out what the underlying cause of her vaginal pain? Start there. And yes, use a good quality lube. Water based lubes sometimes need a little added liquid (keep water glass next...
  • Commented on How can I satisfy her so that she'll naturally want the wilder kinkier sex I crave
    First, she isn't broken, don't fix her. Second, your instincts are good and communications are vital going forward. Third, I have two words for her: Betty Dodson. Some sex therapy for both of you would seem to be indicated. A...
  • Commented on FiancĂ©e's one night stand before we met keeps popping into head during sex
    WW: What Ian Kerner says. plus, seeing a therapist who can work with you to uncover what's underneath your fixation on your fiancee's previous love life sound like crucial advice. It seems that the way she told you (while drunk)...
  • Commented on whats going on?
    ee: could you post more info? How old are you two? Health issues, medications taken? Children? Stress in your lives? Exercise and nutrition? Does he lose his erection during sex frequently, or just immediately after ejaculation? Does he masturbate frequently?...
  • Commented on Sex with husband a lost cause?
    Being sexually mis-matched is challenging for sure. Kudos for sticking with your guy all this time. I seriously think HE is a candidate for some professional counseling with a certified sex counselor, or therapist/coach. He should sign up and begin...
  • Commented on Need advice on a man's behavior.. confused!
    Sweet: yes, from your description you two have great sexual chemistry. He seems "into you" as well. But my projection is that he gets what he needs and does not share your same emotional connection. You seem to be "chasing"...
  • Commented on New relationship
    Liets: I read a book that you might share with your guy: http://www.amazon.com/Cockfidence-Celeste-Hirschman/dp/0983240302/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1356239628&sr=1-1&keywords=cockfidence A sex therapist knows how to resolve certain behaviors...and this was written by two sex therapists. Also: right here on this site, click the eBooks tab and...
  • Commented on Problem getting hard
    RJ: when you watch porn and pleasure yourself you control it all. And its an entirely artificial visual stimulation. There's nothing you have to do to complete the other person (fantasy partner). Conversely, when you are with a live, responding...
  • Commented on Difficulty achieving orgasm
    I would recommend you Post this question by itself -- as a separate Post instead of tagging the original poster's (politico's) question in this thread. Your question is a good one and needs some more info supplied. Like, age, sexual...
  • Commented on No Oral
    Planet: Solving this problem (your problem)may require additional education. Click the eBooks tab (above) and you can very inexpensively download useful (educational) cunnilingus tips info (you can preview first). Best deal on the web. The mouth is much "dirtier" in...
  • Commented on Overcoming sexual abuse
    Brooksc: I have to ask if you have had sufficient and adequate therapy to help you release the feelings of being molested. I project that you need some release from some aspect of having had enjoyment (relating to sexual pleasure,...
  • Commented on prostate health vs ED
    Rick you have a number of questions and issues in your post. What stands out to me is your wife's pain issues. Been there, dealt with that. Losing your erection in a situation where you are anticpating possible pain in...
  • Commented on Wife say no to oral sex
    Christina's article is great. And don't forget to download a couple of the eBooks available right here on this site. Just click on eBooks (tab above) and you can sample before buying,too. Nothing to lose. I'll have to check out...
  • Commented on Erectile Dysfunction
    After a MD's evaluation consider using Viagra, Cialis, Levitra. But take step one first. Be evaluated--if that's what it takes to reduce your stress on this important issue of ED. My projection is you are "up in your head" and...
  • Commented on Am i infected with HIV? Please help me..please anyone?
    Alexman: "working girls", sex workers, whatever you call them are less likely to pass on an STI than most "hook up" situtations with a "civilian". Their health and livelyhood depends on their being very clean and disease free. Most will...
  • Commented on PE a bad start
    Your welcome! Where to begin: OK, I hear a lot of "judgments" in your questions and related "data". Your first sex was with a "loose girl" post pubescent teen. Well what were you? She'd had sex before and liked to...
  • Commented on after sex
    Jeff, you don't indicate your age or her lubrication ability during intercourse. Which one of you "hurts" at withdrawl--I assume its her? Do you use condoms? What is her orgasmic curve? Who usually orgasms first? My first guess is for...
  • Commented on Herpes
    Glen, are you 100% clear on what is going on here? The Herpes aspect seems to be one thing, the refusal to have sex seems to come from somewhere else. While I do know a couple in exactly your same...
  • Commented on Wife Does Not Like Sex
    I don't see any advice here, from any of the MD's or other medical professionals. What is her medical history? Is she on any medications, including birth control? Hormone levels checked? Thyroid? Is she stressed by work, family, or have...
  • Commented on I'm disgusted by sex, but I didn't used to be
    aj, please don't give up on getting therapy. Source all avenues like county health department, even religious organization you belong to. Your emotion around some factors/experiences is causing your blockage of pleasure and disgust at sex. You are in control...
  • Commented on Terrified of oral sex
    In a word, "YES". Google AASECT, check in with some of this site's moderators via email. You might be able to "phone it in" to them. Or find a sex therapist you feel comfortable with (I suggest a woman). From...
  • Commented on Asexual?
    My thoughts: I think some people ARE asexual. And as long as you and your partner are OK with that, then fine. My wife has turned asexual. Following the birth of our second son her libido just died. It wasn't...
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