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  • Commented on laugh, orgasm
    No, it is not normal, but it is delightful! I've only experienced this with 1 out of 100 partners and it took some getting used to, but don't be shy about it as it makes you special! Laugh on ......
  • Commented on Orgasm after prostate surgery
    As part of a research study team, I interviewed 600 men with prostate cancer. I'd say you are VERY lucky to be having erections and sex. Orgasms can change over time, becoming less easy to achieve, less intense, with less...
  • Commented on Ultimatum?
    You didn't mention your age, or his, or whether you live together ... all important issues. But yes, everyone is entitled to the chance to find happiness, and you aren't happy. So an ultimatum is fair in this case. Or...
  • Commented on Does he want a woman, or a girl?
    You should read 'Mars and Venus in the Bedroom' as it explains the important differences in how men and women think about sex. Everyone should read that book! Do you buy fashion magazines and lust after dresses costing thousands ......
  • Commented on The vaginal orgasm
    Perhaps you might think of this as a quest for orgasm #2 vaginally after enjoying the first one orally. What about a quick transition from oral to intercourse? Can you come more than once after the oral? And can you...
  • Commented on Male ejaculatory "extremes"
    Nothing wrong with what you describe, aside from your expectations. Looks like a great set up to me! 1) You give her foreplay/oral until she has an orgasm and is satisfied, 2) then she gives you oral until you're ready...
  • Commented on between a rock and hard place
    Porn is available 24/7, always there, no discussion, no bargaining, a quick fix with endless variety ... tough competition for a real woman with a real life. Assuming you live together ... true? So if he heads for the computer...
  • Commented on Wife has no sex drive
    She won't talk about sex, won't go to counseling, won't kiss you or touch you or allow you to touch her, and it's been that way for over 5 years. Sex, for her, is OVER! For some women that happens...
  • Commented on Porn Discussion
    Unhealthy porn is based on coercion, with abuse or a threat of actual violence to the women (not scripted). Linda Lovelace experienced this evil side of the industry. Healthy porn (to me) includes smiles, laughter in some form, and is...
  • Commented on Sexual performance with a compatible partner
    Such a timeless, universal question! The male animal will always lust for perfect young bodies ... who by your middle age are really only available for pay or via online porn, which causes endless problems ... read this website for...
  • Commented on Desire vs Accommodation
    Take a month off from sex (maybe longer), and talk it out VERY carefully, with zero blame. She sounds tired, maybe bored, stressed by whatever, and sex is just one more obligation. Work on your friendship! Do you actually like...
  • Commented on Help in building confidence -- penis enlargement
    You don't mention if you two have gone for couples counseling ... ? You can not change your penis size, so forget that. You can introduce larger sized toys, but it sounds like you've tried that already. Bottom line: your...
  • Commented on Controlling ejaculation
    This man has written the book(s) you seek: Mantak Chia. He's a Taoist martial and marital arts guy ... I can't vouch for the exercises, but I've seen the books....
  • Commented on Orgasm
    Take a hand in the process, or ask him to lend a hand. That is, lean back a bit, and let your fingers do the walking, or his. A gentle thumb works wonders in my experience, but then I'm just...
  • Commented on Is my boyfriend gay or bisexual?
    The stakes are VERY high here: your future happiness is at risk. A solid relationship includes complete sexual honesty, and honest communication in general. You should confess your invasion of his privacy, and he needs to explain. Maybe you'll discover...
  • Commented on Oral Sex
    Men are VERY stimulated by the visual aspects of sex, thus the appeal of porn. Oral sex without swallowing can be wild fun keeping this in mind. Explore facials with your man and you will have no complaints!...
  • Commented on Men's silent treatment Part 2
    Here's another book suggestion: Mars and Venus in the Bedroom by John Gray. Corny title, but an EXCELLENT description of the very real differences between men and women. I would give this book to every couple that has ever had...
  • Commented on sexless marriage resulting in divorce
    3 years without sex and you call that a marriage? Crazy! 1 month should have sent you running to a couples counselor. Yes, divorce will cause you to lose friends, and start all over, and MAYBE allow you to find...
  • Commented on Porn trouble
    Your cry for help is spiritual, a soul in trouble - same as with all addictions. You need a mentor, a guide, a caring friend, someone to go see, talk to, who will stand with you on your journey back...
  • Commented on Fiance doesn't want to give oral sex
    I'm going to stir up trouble and say break the engagement. Men change very little over time. Why put up with a selfish lover? A guy who won't reciprocate with oral sex does not really love you ... truth. Think...
  • Commented on Questions Regarding Bedroom Boredom Survey by Kristen Mark
    Holy smokes! Have you really been having sex with your wife for 30 years and not said what you really want ?? What in the world are you waiting for, retirement? Time to open the door to honesty, communication, imagination,...
  • Commented on My boyfriend can't get off via sexual intercourse...
    Opinion from an older guy ... Don't mold your mind, rather, get serious and toughen up. If your 28 yr old bf can't perform due to porn addiction, dump him! "Choose me, or porn" and stick to it. Sounds like...
  • Commented on Does This Ever Really Work to Get More Sex?
    Yes, it works. (you're quite welcome ladies) Do it with a sense of humor. Housework is a pain for everyone. Show your wife a list of the tasks you're going to complete today, and the last item is "collect payment...
  • Commented on Sexless Marriage, Another one, Yes
    Want sex? Step #1, get a vasectomy. No more babies. This will take big stress off her. Step #2, stop asking for sex for 1 or 2 months. Show her you love her for more than sex. She's pissed off,...
  • Commented on depression linked to erection issue?
    If therapy is out, find a mentor, an older man who's seen it all and is well adjusted. Doctors, ministers, police see a lot of heavy, depressing stuff. Young men tend to think that 'everybody else has it together' ......
  • Commented on lover is not really 'doing it' for me?
    Yes, give this one up. Why drive 2.5 hrs for a lousy lover? Yuck. Enthusiasm is the one word secret for great sex. You sound like a woman with a lust for life, so find a man with the same!...
  • Commented on depression linked to erection issue?
    Did your child have heart surgery? If so, your husband can see a therapist and say it is to discuss the child's health. The therapist will protect his privacy. When did erection problems start? Many things hurt erections - like...
  • Commented on Want to Feel Wanted
    Couples counseling, with a therapist who works with cops, soldiers, etc. Your husband needs to speak his truth and you need to hear it. I'm guessing a male therapist will help your husband open up more. Time for some very...
  • Commented on Anal Sex Advice
    Since she is not turned on by the topic and you are, the solution is simple. Invite her to give you a prostate massage. This will please you and it may make her curious. At any rate, it's a variety...
  • Commented on Why do some men want to ejaculate onto or all over a woman?
    It's fun, different, a treat! Yes it comes from porn, so there is a yuck element, but it allows Everyman to feel like a porn star for a moment. It's really a form of Theater in the bedroom, another variety...
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