Paul

  • Commented on Boy do I need advice!
    My partner turns 60 this year. With her lubrication is not enough. She has to be fully aroused too. I'm not a doctor but my guess is she needs for the tissues to be warmed up before penetration. Just like...
  • Commented on Sexual problems and porn
    You're definately not alone in feeling insecure about your husband viewing porn. Read a few of the questions posted here and you will see it's one of the most common threads. I don't believe your husband prefers porn to you....
  • Commented on married but havent had sex
    Sex doesn't have to be about penetration. Try having sex without penetration. Kissing, touching, stroking, caressing etc. Both of you can be made to feel good without penetration. You can even bring each other to orgasm this way. I'm thinking...
  • Commented on Sexually frustrated, With serial cheating spouse, Looking for couples counseling
    Jazn If your husband is all the things you say he is I don't see marriage counselling as being a solution, at least not yet. As a sex addict, narcissist, ADD sufferer and pathological liar he will require intensive work...
  • Commented on When does bad sex become a deal-breaker?
    My personal opinion is yes it can be a deal breaker. Relationships include a lot of compromise however if it gets to the point of one or both of you have to give up something that is important to you...
  • Commented on no hope
    I think triathlon clubs, swim clubs, bike clubs and running clubs are all great places to meet people of the opposite sex. Right off the bat you would know you share a common interest. If you don't already belong to...
  • Commented on Cunnilingus and Pain
    Any chance it's your whiskers? I understand razor burn down there may not be pleasant....
  • Commented on Sex life suffering, Fiance says he "has no fantasies"
    I appreciate it is not the best solution but what about after a drink or two? Would he be more willing to share his fantasies then?...
  • Commented on The vaginal orgasm
    My partner orgasms from being on top and grinding not from thrusting. If you haven't already tried that you might want to....
  • Commented on Rare sex, together 7 years , married 1
    5 times in 3 years?!?? It's hard to imagine he's not motivated to work harder at seducing you by now. It doesn't sound as though he's very respectful of your needs. It makes me think you're experiencing a relationship issue...
  • Commented on Ejaculate volume decrease
    At 44 I'm can't tell how much of a decrease in volume I've seen but I definately don't ejaculate with the same force I did when I was 20....
  • Commented on Going down on your woman
    My honest opinion based on what you've said is your man is selfish. I base this opinion on the combination of him being selfish in the bedroom, selfish with respect to chores and selfish with respect to financial support not...
  • Commented on Not happened yet...
    You are not at all insensitive for bringing this up. Sex is an important aspect of a relationship. If you're incompatible when you're dating becoming more comitted is not going to make things better. In my opinion this is something...
  • Commented on I'm boring or he's addicted...
    As contradictory as it may seem sex by yourself can be less work than sex with a partner. You don't have to worry about arousing the other person and you are in complete control of your own arousal. While watching...
  • Commented on Why anal?
    I think it's the illicitness of it. It's kind of a forbidden fruit which makes it more appealing. For us guys any place tight and slippery feels good physically so unless there were reservations about the connotations of it most...
  • Posted Porn Discussion to The Good in Bed Forums
    I was struck by Kristen Mark's comment in another thread that she is "pro-porn". I am interested in hearing people's opinions on porn. I suppose at some level I'm trying to justify my attraction to it while at the same...
  • Commented on Wife Disinterested in Sex
    I don’t’ doubt the physical ailments you’ve noted will inhibit sexual performance. Often these ailments are linked to obesity which in and of itself can affect sexual desire due to concerns about body image. I’m thinking a sound nutrition and...
  • Commented on Partner Can't Keep Erection
    I suspect it’s in his head. When the opportunity arises rather than thinking of how sexy you are or the situation is he’s trying to will his penis hard. With such a fear of failure looming in his head the...
  • Commented on Help in building confidence -- penis enlargement
    Mirgtager I can sympathize with your situation. A number of years ago I found my wife at the time was having intimate communications with an old boyfriend of hers. As I struggled to try to save the marriage my self...
  • Commented on Help in building confidence -- penis enlargement
    Personally I think the penis size thing is a red herring. If she was really into you she would enjoy whatever size penis you have. Sure the penis size of the other man may have been an attraction but I’m...
  • Commented on Sexual Incompatibility
    I don’t believe you’re being selfish at all. I believe he’s being selfish by pushing you to engage in something you don’t care for and then trying to guilt you into it by using the ole ‘if you loved me...
  • Commented on uninterested in sex :(
    I suspect her lack of arousal may very well be the issue when it comes to the pain. My partner also experiences a 'burning' sensation if she's not aroused. I'm guessing this feeing comes from stretching tissue not yet prepared...
  • Commented on Sexual Incompatibility
    I don't think there's an easy answer to this dilemma. For some of your 'x's compromise is difficult if no impossible. Sometimes you can compromise on these things by fantasizing about them together without actually going all the way and...
  • Commented on Can a man train himself to have multiple orgasms?
    There is a book called the Multi-Orgasmic Male. It claims to be able to teach any man to become multi-orgasmic. I'm not convinced it's always possible but may be an avenue you wish to explore....
  • Commented on Husbands lost interest?
    From what you're saying it appears to me your husband is just plain selfish. From his point of view he gets very satisfying sex without any expectation of reciprocation on his part, he doesn't even have to initiate it and...
  • Commented on Porn over sex
    I don't think porn is the cause of his issues but a symptom. I would expect that a healthy 28 year man would be more than happy to engage you in as much sex as you could ever want. I've...
  • Commented on Porn over sex
    Every three weeks at 28? I'm no expert but to me he must have issues. Either with the relationship or perhaps something physical that makes him choose to avoid sex. I like Dr.Castellanos suggestion of approaching him in as non-accusatory...
  • Commented on Self-Image
    I believe your husband is telling you the truth. Back when I was married my wife had a tendency to put on weight. I never saw her as anything but the sexiest most beautiful woman in the world. As Ian...
  • Commented on hubby is not motivated
    I've of the same opinion as Ian. I suspect the erectile dysfunction is making him self conscious. I'm a huge proponent of physical fitness. It helps with so many facets of your life. It helps with energy levels, body image,...
  • Commented on Men,Masturbation,& Porn
    I think it's the rare man that doesn't have fantasies about other women. There are so many beautiful woman out there it's hard not to fantasize when one catches your eye. I don't believe that takes away from the love...
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