Sex Nerd matching “sex”

Love, Actually

College students, man. They ask the best and the hardest questions. This is what they asked me yesterday: "When you're really interested in someone and then you get into a relationship with them and all your interest just evaporates... why... Continue

How To Have A Good Personality

There is a lot of science (well, let's say there is a lot of "science") about mate choice, what's attractive to whom and what that means for us as a species. For example, in general we, all of us humans,... Continue

Dating Game Theory

I just spent an hour trying to work out the payoff matrix of dating in college, as represented in the NYT. (Need I remind readers that I am a nerd?) I did this because when I read the article it... Continue

Science. Gone. Wrong.

Ya'll know I'm in love with evolution. It does for me what no mere human could - it understands, it explains, it supports, it gives me a safe place from which to explore the world. And just as you'd hate... Continue

What Women Want (1)

Thanks to Brody's useful comment, I've decided to spend a bunch of time focused on helping men understand women. We are, it's true, a complex stew of contradictory feelings and ideas. We are mysterious and sometimes demanding. But we're AMAZING... Continue

Do You Know When You Want It?

This is the sort of thing I forget people don't know. Female sexual response is typically characterized by "responsive desire," while male sexual response is more likely characterized by "spontaneous desire." (I'm going for biological categories rather than social categories... Continue

What Women Want (2)

We're looking at What Women Want Wednesday again. This is the second in the I-don't-know-how-many-parts series. This week women want... ... to be wanted. I mean waaaaaanted. Without that feeling of being wanted... well, it's awful to feel that your... Continue

Sperm, Actually.

I hate to cook. I staved off malnutrition during grad school mostly by living with other people who enjoyed cooking. (Thanks Patrick.) These days, preferring to live on my own until there's someone I want to live with for reasons... Continue


This is another one of those things I forget people don't know. Sensation is contextual. What I mean is, you know how when someone tickles you and you're feeling all playful and fun and it's enjoyable? And then there's other... Continue